coastiee is offline coastiee Post #1  July 7,2010, 8:49am

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This kind of bugs me, wanted to hear some other opinions. I'm 43, he's 52. We've been communicating for a month, and also met in person over the long weekend. He will only communicate by text. I've tried to call several times with no answer and call going to voicemail. He's never initiated a phone conversation, let alone returned mine. But he would mention the call and thank me for the message by text. I've stopped calling.

We talked non-stop over the weekend about everything under the sun, and really enjoyed each other's company, so it seemed kind of a let down to return to texting. It's definitely got it's place, but not as the only form of talking.

You think this is just how he is, or is he playing me?
 
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I don't see anything in your post that would indicate that he is playing you. This is just the way he is. For me this would be unacceptable since I am not much of a texter.
 
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My teenagers carry on their relationships by text. I feel stupid doing it. I need to hear a voice now and then.
 
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It does not sound like playing; he likes text and doesn't like phone. Could you ask him to do phone calls with you? Or, can you meet in person again since that went well, and just let it go?

If this is long distance, you probably need to work out a communication method you're both happy with. But if it's not long distance, it's less important.
 
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coastiee wrote :
This kind of bugs me, wanted to hear some other opinions. I'm 43, he's 52. We've been communicating for a month, and also met in person over the long weekend. He will only communicate by text. I've tried to call several times with no answer and call going to voicemail. He's never initiated a phone conversation, let alone returned mine. But he would mention the call and thank me for the message by text. I've stopped calling.

We talked non-stop over the weekend about everything under the sun, and really enjoyed each other's company, so it seemed kind of a let down to return to texting. It's definitely got it's place, but not as the only form of talking.

You think this is just how he is, or is he playing me?

Get rid of him permanently. NOW.

People who cannot communicate with full words have no business dating. That includes YOU.

Texting is utterly retarded, it is for 13 year old females who don't know any better (but should).

I would NEVER NEVER NEVER text. Neither should you. Except in a dire emergency. And even then, there is 911 WHICH CAN BE CALLED ON THE PHONE. So I would say never do it, ever.
 
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Sassafras54 wrote :
It does not sound like playing; he likes text and doesn't like phone. Could you ask him to do phone calls with you? Or, can you meet in person again since that went well, and just let it go?

If this is long distance, you probably need to work out a communication method you're both happy with. But if it's not long distance, it's less important.
I agree with Sassafras.
The fact that you've met... doesn't indicate he's playing games...
Although I'm not a big fan of texting, he's probably just busy and wants to [at least] keep in some from of contact with you.

You see the texting as acceptable in the early parts of dating, but he's sees it as an "addition" to dating.
You need to tell him(hopefully in person) that you want to hear his voice, also.
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We've never talked on the phone. Calls would go unasnwered and not returned. Great conversation in person though. I tried again the night he got home from our weekend, said it would be nice to talk in person, and no response.
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coastiee wrote :
My teenagers carry on their relationships by text.
Then take their cellphones away, immediately, and close their accounts and *never* pay for them. I am pretty sure teenagers can't pass the credit test and get phones on their own, unless they get those tracfones, the pay by the minute things like illegal aliens use.

Teenagers ....They can live and grow up without portable phones .... 24/7. Just like you and I did and billions of humans did, for the past 5 million years..
 
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coastiee wrote :

We talked non-stop over the weekend about everything under the sun, and really enjoyed each other's company.
I'm a little confused. Since you've never talked on the phone, but talked "non-stop over the weekend" does this mean you were together all weekend, during your first meeting? Is this a long-distance match?

I can understand having a preference for one communication method over another, but to never take your calls or return them is a red flag to me. Makes me suspicious that he is either married or in another relationship.
 
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Jayhawkgirl, it is long distance. About 3 hours apart, not bad. He spend the weekend in the town I live in, so we had lots of time over the weekend to talk. He didn't stay with me.
 
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