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nacy16 is offline nacy16 Post #1  July 4,2010, 5:32am
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I don't know what exactlly he wants. A match keep on contacting me every two months. We never meet, he is a very busy professinoal. Me too, so I think if he is interested enough, he will try to meet me for a cup of coffee. From the begining, we email, text regually for a while and stop( stop be his end). Then here comes to the two months contact, only text.
What he wants? should I text him back?
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I have one right now that continues communication every week, then stops.

To me this is a sign of sincere disinterest. There is a good chance that he has nothing else going on when he writes to you. Then when he starts communicating with someone else, he's gone again.

I think you need to close him.
 
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I would agree that he should be pushing to arrange a meeting.

Not arranging a meeting, or even a communication sufficient to learn about someone, is odd.

So, unless you'd like more oddness in your life, why bother?
 
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Well, if he wants a penpal, he's not even doing enough to keep up on his end....
You could either say, "do you want to meet (day) at (place)?
or, ignore him, I guess....
It doesn't sound like he's going to move it along.
 
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Sorry, when were you guys first matched???
 
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morningsunlight wrote :
Sorry, when were you guys first matched???
I agree with you all. I guess I will ignore him. I think 7 or 8 months back.
 
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nacy16 wrote :
I agree with you all. I guess I will ignore him. I think 7 or 8 months back.
Oh WOW! Sounds like he is stringing you along for an ego stroke (or he's married). Imho, I think it is definitely time to move on.....
 
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FWIW ... I think the times since and between communications are much more revealing than the time since being matched. I do agree it's time to move along.
 
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nacy16 wrote :
I don't know what exactlly he wants. A match keep on contacting me every two months. We never meet, he is a very busy professinoal. Me too, so I think if he is interested enough, he will try to meet me for a cup of coffee. From the begining, we email, text regually for a while and stop( stop be his end). Then here comes to the two months contact, only text.
What he wants? should I text him back?
Any thoughts?

I am assuming you two have each others personal email. If your only contact is through eharmony it may be only when there are free weekends. This would be something different.

If you have each others email and send texts and he disappears for 2 months at a time is because he is likely pursuing other women who for whatever reason he meets first and dates then it ends then he goes back to find someone else..and that includes you. You seem to be plan B.

Have you been resistent on meeting him for coffee when he asked you?

If you two live in the same city you should meet within 2-3 weeks after exchanging emails and phone calls....the sooner the beter. Prolonging this just makes success lees likely.
 
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