A question about missing a first meeting?


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D_Lion is offline D_Lion Post #1  July 2,2010, 5:23pm
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Has anybody had a meeting planned, and the person failed to show up?

- Who has had a person not arrive at all?
- Who has has a person arrive late (late enough to be annoyed)?

If you have ever done this to someone else, what was your reason?

If this happened to you, have you taken any action to reduce the risk, going forward?

If you were Late, do you still think 600 hp cars are extravagant?

What is your time zone?
 
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D_Lion wrote :
Has anybody had a meeting planned, and the person failed to show up?

- Who has had a person not arrive at all?
- Who has has a person arrive late (late enough to be annoyed)?
Yes. He called me, apologised and rescheduled for the following day. I have also had, I think, a blind date leave without going ahead with the meeting after seeing me arrive. Presumably he did not like what he saw! Either that, or it was a complete coincidence that a total stranger looked me over and then left. lol

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If this happened to you, have you taken any action to reduce the risk, going forward?
Not really. Just chalked it up to experience and left it there: in the past.
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What is your time zone?
About twenty minutes or so. Most people I know are generally punctual. I tend to arrive a little early myself ... I always worry I won't be able to park and that will make me late. I would accept one reschedule attempt, but unlikely to accept any further reschedule requests without a good reason as to why. eg 'I broke my leg and am in traction' counts as a good reason.
 
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I have had some people stand me up. They could have seen me and decided to run or they just didnt show up because of nerves.

Some people choose to do that. If that occurs then I wait for her to contact me and let me know. If I felt her excuse was legit and she want to meet at a nother time I will give her a second chance.

My date from he!! was when she brought her 3 yr old to the date because she didnt have a sitter...we only lived 10 minutes apart so it could have been easily rescheduled.
 
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Hmm, can't say I've had that happen to me before. I could never do that to someone else either, even if the person hopping up the sidewalk was a frog.
 
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Yes, it was an eHA board member, and a casual meetup rather than a date.

He says he cancelled by emailing me 15 minutes before the meeting. He says he'd gotten tied up at work, but I'd given him my cell. Of course, I didn't get the email in time and he'd never given me his phone number.

Lame.
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D_Lion wrote :
Has anybody had a meeting planned, and the person failed to show up?

- Who has had a person not arrive at all?
- Who has has a person arrive late (late enough to be annoyed)?

If you have ever done this to someone else, what was your reason?

If this happened to you, have you taken any action to reduce the risk, going forward?

If you were Late, do you still think 600 hp cars are extravagant?

What is your time zone?
Who has had a person not arrive at all? -> I did, once. I laughed and wrote her off, and had the viewpoint of thankfully, she showed she wasn't interested, and thus, I didn't miss out on anything.

Who has had a person arrive late enough to be annoyed? -> There were a couple of dates where the person was late by 45 minutes, and one by a hour (stuck in traffic). I admit I was highly annoyed, but gamely stuck through with it.

I was never late for a date. Ever.

Actions taken to reduce risk? Well, not much you can do if they totally flake, but I would call the night before and confirm the plans.

600 hp cars are extravagant.

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I have had someone that showed up very late. Of course I was long gone. My hard and fast rule is 30 minutes, then I go home.

I always confirm the date by phone the night before or there abouts. But, I don't wait. And I wouldn't take kindly to most explanations. Been there, done that.
 
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I just want to know the story behind the question.
 
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Nanette wrote :
I just want to know the story behind the question.

Even if traffic is moving at 2 miles per hour, I still need a 600 hp car, because it is probably a good place to make a phone call from and maybe listen to some music.
 
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Nanette is offline Nanette Post #10  July 3,2010, 8:04am
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Okay, well that could still mean that either you were late or she was (or never showed) so I will guess it was her and say sorry. :(
 
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