What do guys consider an acceptable number of men for a 40-year-old woman to have been with?


View Poll Results: What do men consider an acceptable number of sexual partners for a 40-yr-old woman?
1-2 2 7.41%
3-5 2 7.41%
6-8 8 29.63%
9-12 5 18.52%
13-15 1 3.70%
16-18 1 3.70%
19-23 1 3.70%
24-30 2 7.41%
31-40 1 3.70%
more than 40 4 14.81%
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scully98 is offline scully98 Post #1  July 1,2010, 5:42am
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This is a spin-off from the thread that wouldn't die. but a good point was brought up. At least, a good point in my oh-so humble opinion.

What is considered an acceptable number of men for a woman to have slept with in her lifetime? Obviously age, etc, all plays a role. but in general, what number is not shocking to men?

I'm saying a 40-year-old woman to give a reference point. Obviously a 40 year old would have probably slept with more men than, say, a 25 year old.

Also curious what numbers would be considered way too high. But since I can only ask one question in the poll, opting for the acceptable number to be the one we focus on.

That is, if posting a poll actually works. Cross your fingers!
 
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Is this a weekly number?
 
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Cape_Codder wrote :
Is this a weekly number?
ha. ha. ha.

ahem.

no, it's a lifetime number.

should I have made the max higher than 40????
 
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I never ask, so the question is irrelevant as to the actual number- the circumstances are far more important. The important number is how many casual sex relationships the woman has had versus committed serious sexual relationships.

I would not want to go out with a woman that is too easy as that does not bode well for fidelity, among other things.

As for comparing a 20 something to a 40 something, it is worth remembering that (in the UK certainly) that views on sex and morality have changed in the last 20 years so I would not be at all surprised if most (or many) 25 year old women have had far more sexual partners than 45 year old women have. The sexual goalposts have changed over the last 20 years.
 
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melman, it's actually a serious question and I'm quite curious as to the answer. I've always told the truth about my # when asked, but now as that number grows, I am trying to decide whether I should avoid sharing my number in future relationships. don't want to shock anyone!

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I never ask, so the question is irrelevant as to the actual number- the circumstances are far more important. The important number is how many casual sex relationships the woman has had versus committed serious sexual relationships.

I would not want to go out with a woman that is too easy as that does not bode well for fidelity, among other things.

As for comparing a 20 something to a 40 something, it is worth remembering that (in the UK certainly) that views on sex and morality have changed in the last 20 years so I would not be at all surprised if most (or many) 25 year old women have had far more sexual partners than 45 year old women have. The sexual goalposts have changed over the last 20 years.
true, but now that I'm single again, I am living the life of a 25-year-old.
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[quote=scully98;1027201]I've always told the truth about my # when asked, ...



OK, now that you got us all wondering, what is your number?
 
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1. it's tacky to ask or be asked. the information serves no useful purpose.

2. the "number" should mean nothing. and if you want to attach meaning to the number of sexual partners you have had, you have to attach the same exact number and the same exact meaning to the number men have slept with.

3. i think this is a joke thread but i really agree with melman.
 
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scully98 wrote :
melman, it's actually a serious question and I'm quite curious as to the answer.
I guess my concern is that you think that knowing the "answer" should mean anything to you. Is it any different than having polls on favorite hair color or ideal weight?

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I've always told the truth about my # when asked, but now as that number grows,

now that I'm single again, I am living the life of a 25-year-old.
These are very telling statements. One, that you don't think much of 25-year-olds, and two, that you're going through some kind of mid-life crisis and/or case of repressed who-knows-what.
 
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melman wrote :
These are very telling statements. One, that you don't think much of 25-year-olds, and two, that you're going through some kind of mid-life crisis and/or case of repressed who-knows-what.
Once again, melman hits the nail squarely on the head.

Bravo.
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Female, here, but I have to put in my two cents:
If a woman has never married, then the number would be quite high and still not raise my eyebrows. Say two men a year, over twenty years. That's not unreasonable. If she's been married for most of those twenty years, then I'd expect the number to be much, much lower (I'd hope in single digits).

But I'm not a guy, so do I get change for my .02?

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