Free dinners? Question for women

I've treated a lot of women to free dinners over the years--some romantically, most just as friends... and some more than once. Call it the way I was raised--as a southern gentleman. The girls I dated growing up never ever tried to go dutch. I'm not rich but not poor. Besides, I'm the one who asked. Imagine my shock when I read on these boards that I was entitled to sex afterwards!

So my question is this--how do I call in these past favors so late after the fact? If they live in a different city or moved away, can nudie pictures be accepted lieu of the physical act? Dirty talking on the phone? Is there a statute of limitations? Help me, I've been taken advantage by selfish women of all these years!

Okay, not really. But seeing that the recent thread on dinner has exceeded 72 pages is really depressing. It's annoying to me to think that men actually expect "dessert" just because they plopped down a credit card. It's equally depressing to me that women have become paranoid about the process, resulting in a lot of awkwardness when the check arrives. So my real question is to the women--on a percentage basis, how common are the men you feel have the mindset "I pay, you must play"?

Should I be demanding something in return?

I think that some of the raging debates on these boards should be treated as nothing more than entertainment.

In all the dates I've ever gone on, I've never encountered the kind of bitterness and angst and score keeping as I have seen on these boards. In my personal experience, the only thing a guy expects in return for pulling out the credit card is a simple thank you. Also, quite contrary to what seems to be the prevailing attitude here, my dating experience has been that many men will feel either slighted or downright insulted if a woman attempts to reject his offer to pay for the meal.