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nyboy309 is offline nyboy309 Post #1  June 30,2010, 7:55am
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I believe a lot of people have this problem.
I see this co-worker around but not often but like sometimes. She is pretty and i was thinking about flirting with her but im not sure how to start a conversation and make it flirty. I dont want to start a conversation by asking her for help or something like that; for one i dont work in the same section with her and i find it hard to turn a conversation like that into something that might escalate into a relationship.
Any advice? how do i go about this?
 
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NEVER, EVER date a coworker!!!
 
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The best way to go about it is not to go about it.
 
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Don't - unless you have another job lined up
 
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slaw is offline slaw Post #5  June 30,2010, 12:10pm
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This depends how old you are, where you work and whether there is a power relationship between you. When I was younger and worked in the service industry co-workers sleeping together and dating was not only common it was expected. Now, the only women I work with that I would want to sleep with are subordinate to me and that makes anything virtually impossible.

In terms of meeting her, I wouldn't look at it as 'flirting' with her. What about just saying hello and introducting yourself and talking with a colleague. See how it goes from there.
 
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Meh, there are situations where it is more than OK to date a co-worker. For instance, if you work in different buildings or at least different departments.
 
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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #7  June 30,2010, 1:53pm

what the bejeezus is going on round here?!

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I met my ex at work and we kept it secret for ages and ages for all sorts of messy but decent reasons.

It was pretty exciting......... and sometimes wrong.

Couldn't happen these days. I'm a teacher now.

You meet people at work don't you? What you gonna do?
 
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Are you asking how to flirt, without trying to take it beyond that? I don't feel able to even suggest how, if you can't figure it as you go. (With that, practicing at work isn't the best idea.)

If you intend to take this at least to the level of a date, in my opinion the best strategy is to ask for a date, in a clear and specific manner, soon.

If you try to flirt for awhile, she is likely to move from thinking you are interested to thinking you are not interested - because you haven't asked her out.
 
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Do you have any co-workers that work near her or know anything about her? Maybe you can find someone to find out if she is single.
 
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Do you know anything about her other than looks?

Do you know anyone who is in her division who might know some stuff about her?

When you see her who in your group is she comming to talk to...does that person know anything about her?

I dont have a problem dating coworkers as long as we arent in the same office working day to day. I have worked for large organizations with different departments where paths would cross little.


I know you dont want to ask for help but that is the best way to get your foot in the door with her to start a conversation. Then you at least know this person and then on the next time you cross paths you then can start talking about things other than work because it makes it easier to say hi.


WARNING...if you work in a smaller office in a smaller company and this does go somewhere you need to be willing to explore finding another job? Also if she is a supervisor and you arent there could be issues or corporate policy that would prevent her from even going out with her since she likely wouldnt risk her job in this economy.
 
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