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ellary is offline ellary Post #1  June 28,2010, 9:32pm
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These are good, common sense tips that are easy to forget, especially when you're dealing with someone with whom you feel good chemistry and are excited to meet.   Though it might be hard to hold back personal details like where you live, the company you work for, etc., one thing to keep in mind is would you regret your date having that information if things went sour?  
Some will might say this is too cautious to the point of paranoia, but better safe than sorry.

A friend of mine had a lot of explaining to do at work when a women who he'd chosen not to see after only two dates kept showing up at his office, begging the receptionist there to let her in to see him.  Not good!
 
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It hurts to be dumped by the person that you've dated twice,some men get cold feet and scared too. I know I've been there you have to move on with your life.
 
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Number one is a gross exageration. Just had a first date yesterday with one of my matches, we were going somewhere it's hard to find parking, she offered to meet at my house. Everything went fine, we had a great time. Maybe that's because I'm not a wierd/creepy guy (believe it or not that normal people do exist on the internet!)? Anyways, I think you have to feel a person out and make judgments based on that, there's no set in stone rules and being overly protective adds an element of akwwardness.
 
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fi_analyst wrote :
Number one is a gross exageration. Just had a first date yesterday with one of my matches, we were going somewhere it's hard to find parking, she offered to meet at my house. Everything went fine, we had a great time. Maybe that's because I'm not a wierd/creepy guy (believe it or not that normal people do exist on the internet!)? Anyways, I think you have to feel a person out and make judgments based on that, there's no set in stone rules and being overly protective adds an element of akwwardness.
That's what Ted Bundy said too.
 
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Hi fi_analyst,

You're perhaps not weird/creepy but the next guy she does that with might be. It really was not a safe thing for her to do. Or you. Your next match could be Lizzie Borden.

Better to be aggravated by parking.
 
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I follow a certain protocol every time I meet someone from online for the first time (public place, daytime, in an area I'm familiar with, tell someone where I'll be and who I'm with, and ask someone to send me a text about half an hour in). I just want to cover bases but have yet to really feel like I needed it - it's a safety net I haven't had to use.

I have to say, I love FB - it's a way to show him I represented myself honestly (work full time, student, have friends and a social life) and let's me see the same.
 
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