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rosairlandesa is offline rosairlandesa Post #1  June 28,2010, 6:20pm
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I was matched with a really interesting guy and went through guided communication. At the email stage, I confused him with someone else that I had been communicating with.(I asked him about his military service. The other guy had been in the service, not this man.) He has not responded to my mail,but has looked at my profile as recently as today.
Do I send him a mail or just chalk this up to "live and learn"?
 
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rosairlandesa wrote :
I was matched with a really interesting guy and went through guided communication. At the email stage, I confused him with someone else that I had been communicating with.(I asked him about his military service. The other guy had been in the service, not this man.) He has not responded to my mail,but has looked at my profile as recently as today.
Do I send him a mail or just chalk this up to "live and learn"?

Surely, he can't expect that you two are now exclusive. Just write him explaining you are also talking with someone else and you sent him that e-mail by mistake, and then proceed with the e-mail to this man as you would have normally. Mention it and move on.
 
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Hi there OP,

These things happen, heck it even happened to me a couple of times. But the key is, write back as soon as you can to this guy and explain you made a mistake. 99% of the time, people are forgiving. But if you don't at least acknowledge the mistake you made, it will for sure leave a sour taste in the guy's mouth.

So simply put: Don't punish yourself too hard, these things happen. But apologize quickly, and move on.
 
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livenlearn is offline livenlearn Post #4  June 28,2010, 6:47pm
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You really dont have anything to lose by telling him you got confused. If he can't handle that then he isn't worth meeting.
 
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TalkingTina wrote :
... Just write him explaining you are also talking with someone else and you sent him that e-mail by mistake, and then proceed with the e-mail to this man as you would have normally. Mention it and move on.

Yes! And do it with a touch of humor to smooth it over.

I dated a guy for nearly 2 years who, early on, got me confused with "that other WW" (other woman with same first name) he had recently talked to. We continued to get a chuckle out of it the entire time we dated, because whenever he got confused about something we did or said I'd tell him "You must be thinking of that other WW!"

You never know, he may be relieved at the chance to admit to talking with other matches, too.
 
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ami1uwant is online now ami1uwant Post #6  June 28,2010, 7:06pm
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This can happen....hopefully he can look past your mistake.

Most users know they arent the only one you are talking to so it can be understandable---especially on free weekends when it can get busy.
 
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livenlearn wrote :
You really don't have anything to lose by telling him you got confused. If he can't handle that then he isn't worth meeting.
Basically I would agree with this. However, unless you have been told by this guy that he was not in the military previously then it may be that your question was not in error and you don't need to make any apology. Don't really know since I don't have access to your whole conversations with this guy.

I would not do as someone else suggested and tell him that you are communicating with someone else and got him confused with the other person.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
Basically I would agree with this. However, unless you have been told by this guy that he was not in the military previously then it may be that your question was not in error and you don't need to make any apology. Don't really know since I don't have access to your whole conversations with this guy.

I would not do as someone else suggested and tell him that you are communicating with someone else and got him confused with the other person.
OK, now that would be funny. He might think she is psychic.


It is a dating sight after all.
What? You think he will be jealous? Better to weed him out now.
 
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richey is offline richey Post #9  June 29,2010, 12:53am
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ya i think yer fine. it is a dating site. these things (unless yer getting real serious) can easily happen to any of us.

It might put him back a bit or make him think yer weird. But if you just laugh, apologize, explain, and laugh at yourself.. i'm sure ti'll be fine.

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Ooops... Pretty funny actually. Send one e-mail, posturing the mistake, then forget about it. Who wants a man without a sense of humor anyways? I would recall your days of being a belly dancer in Morocco.
 
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