trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #1  June 28,2010, 1:35pm

what the bejeezus is going on round here?!

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I understand the burden of the cost of dating falls disproportionately on men ~ at least in the US.

So men, if you go on a date and pay for dinner, but there's no real future in it (I mean you can tell, can't you, somewhere between starter and main course) then you're out of pocket aren't you? Does it make you feel that the 'account is settled in full' if you get to have sex with her?

Just wondered.
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depends...
Do I have to break out the good Pepperidge Farm crackers??
 
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TheThinker wrote :
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Do I have to break out the good Pepperidge Farm crackers??
If you want to spoil her for other men, then yes!
 
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trixie1868 wrote :
Does it make you feel that the 'account is settled in full' if you get to have sex with her?

Just wondered.
Short answer no.

The only one I feel like complaining was my date in Seattle (jusmile...do you know her? LOL): The most expensive of all....gas, morning coffee, hotel (just for me though ), and a nice meal (plus wine/drinks)....she didn't even offer me a ride to my car..which was a mile way..daggum blisters on my foot! (see how she feels to be walking in my shoes *rimshot*)
 
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trixie1868 wrote :
Does it make you feel that the 'account is settled in full' if you get to have sex with her?
Depends what the prevailing market rates are at the time.
 
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I always offer to split the check. No hard feelings either way if nothing comes of the date.
 
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trixie1868 wrote :
I understand the burden of the cost of dating falls disproportionately on men ~ at least in the US.

So men, if you go on a date and pay for dinner, but there's no real future in it (I mean you can tell, can't you, somewhere between starter and main course) then you're out of pocket aren't you? Does it make you feel that the 'account is settled in full' if you get to have sex with her?

Just wondered.
Actually I have been on a few dinner dates where I knew there was no future in the relationship during the starter and I didn't want to have sex with either of them- oh and we went halves on the bill- the money isn't the point though. That is why, when meeting a lady I have chatted to on the internet for the first time IRL it is far preferable, less pressure, more pleasant (and cheaper) to go for the coffee-date, the walk in the park (day time), the few drinks in a pub. Plus of course less money wasted. If you get a lot of dates and have recently faced redundancy then it can add up.

By the way, if she was demanding to be wined and dined and wooed etc and she came back to my place and was simmilarly demanding in an affectionate way, I might then consider giving in to just one of her demands, by way of reasonable compromise, of course, and having sex with her then dumping her. I got that advice from this message board.

It is not about accountancy, but about not being stuck with a demanding, difficult girlfriend.
 
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ehh if i ask someone out i expect i will have to cover the date, but i never refuse if they offer to pick up part of the cost, but if a women asks me out the tables are turned and it's on her heh. but no i can't say im to worried about keeping the books balanced so to say
 
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Johnnyguitarman wrote :
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It is not about accountancy, but about not being stuck with a demanding, difficult girlfriend.
I did have a demanding, difficult girlfriend years ago. She demanded that I leave the band and spend every night seeing her instead of playing my guitar, that was too much.
 
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She does, on a regular basis.
 
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