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howardtheduck is offline howardtheduck Post #1  June 26,2010, 3:53pm
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So, for 5 years I traveled North America and the world at large Mon-Fri while married. During my travels, I collected, lets call it, gift inventory. Since then then I have divorced and have said, "gift inventory" of let's say mostly sparkly things many women seem to like to receive.

Gold is currently at record highs and selling these trinkets is appealing, though quite a deal is designer and worth considerably more than spot (current gold price at the minute of sale). My question is to ladies out there, if you were in a relationship and received one of these baubles, if you knew the history, would you find it offensive?

I believe in transparency and would probably share its history. They are objects that I personally found appealing and had nothing todo with my ex-wife's taste. I liked my taste better, anyways
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howardtheduck wrote :
. They are objects that I personally found appealing and had nothing todo with my ex-wife's taste. I liked my taste better, anyways

Your ex-wife did choose you.
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TalkingTina wrote :
Your ex-wife did choose you.
Thank you, but, I can give 60:1 odds that it is something she regrets now
 
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To answer your question, I honestly see no reason to explain when the gifts were bought.

I would be off-put to hear they were more than likely earmarked for your ex-wife than if you were just to explain it was something that caught your eye during your years of travel, and you put it aside for a special occasion gift for for someone, whether it be a sister, mother, aunt, or friend type of thing.

I buy gifts occasionally that I see on sale with no one in particular in mind. It is just nice to have something when the right occasion comes along, but I don't explain that I bought it weeks or months in advance. There really is no need to explain.
 
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I'd have no problem with it... it is difficult to buy those kind of gifts for women though, because each person has particular tastes... so, again, I'd have no problem with it if it were something that I liked. Otherwise, I would wonder why you would choose to give me something that is completely not my style.
 
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What kind of stuff do you have? Jewelry? Other stuff? Curious.

I think that normally I would like to have a gift that had me in mind when purchased. And, it doesn't really have to be anything extravagant.

However, it the item doesn't hold significance to you about your ex and it seemed to really fit me and who I am and held signifigance to me, then I may not mind and may appreciate it even.

But, if you have a treasure trove of stuff, you may want to consider putting it on ebay to get some money out of it.

Then, if you meet someone special, you can put that money toward something that is special for her.
 
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What kind of stuff do you have? Jewelry? Other stuff? Curious.

I think that normally I would like to have a gift that had me in mind when purchased. And, it doesn't really have to be anything extravagant.

However, it the item doesn't hold significance to you about your ex and it seemed to really fit me and who I am and held signifigance to me, then I may not mind and may appreciate it even.

But, if you have a treasure trove of stuff, you may want to consider putting it on ebay to get some money out of it.

Then, if you meet someone special, you can put that money toward something that is special for her.

I like this idea.
 
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I wouldn't be offended. I am on the poor side and so appreciate thrift--and a pretty thing is a pretty thing, whatever its origin! But I know plenty of women who would not receive such gifts well.
 
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newbie40something wrote :
What kind of stuff do you have? Jewelry? Other stuff? Curious.

I think that normally I would like to have a gift that had me in mind when purchased. And, it doesn't really have to be anything extravagant.

However, it the item doesn't hold significance to you about your ex and it seemed to really fit me and who I am and held signifigance to me, then I may not mind and may appreciate it even.

But, if you have a treasure trove of stuff, you may want to consider putting it on ebay to get some money out of it.

Then, if you meet someone special, you can put that money toward something that is special for her.
I kind'a like that idea too. Nothing personal (as in clothing or lingerie) all sparkly jewelery, gold, silver, gemstones (coloured and not) and the like. Baubles...
 
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You can send them to me, howard. I will not be offended.

My vote is: did you ever give them to your ex? If yes ... sell them. If no ... hang on to them for use with future ladies.

I really don't think I would want a bf to give me his ex wife's ring. I would want him to give me either something he picked for me, or he had just picked it with no one in mind but he liked it a lot. I don't want to remind my bf of his ex, any more than can be helped.
 
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