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jameswhitt is offline jameswhitt Post #1  June 24,2010, 8:24am
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Hello everyone, new here

As the title already says I have a bit of trouble pinning down where exactly I stand with a girl so I probably need to explain the back story a bit. About two years ago I have met this girl, lets call her Jamie on a party. Since then we have been chatting casually on Skype, created quite a good friendship. But about 12 months ago we both stopped using Skype. However we still stayed in touch meeting for coffee, going to movies...basically getting closer. Yesterday we decided she comes to my place next week for a few drinks, listening to some music...staying the whole night. Do you think things are moving forward?
 
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You need to ask her. Sorry, I know you wish we could answer it but nope, she is the only one who can answer.

For some women that would show things are def moving forward, others it is just friendship. Not knowing her no one can answer.
 
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thanks but my fear is that if I am on the right track asking her would really freak her out ruining any chances I might have had.
 
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Did you say she might spend the night when she comes to your house? If she agrees to spend the night, why would you worry how she feels about if you ask her about how the relationship is going?

If you're thinking about spending the night with her, this could be interpretted as things moving forward. It could also mean that she just needs the sex and you won't hear from her again.

I think you need to ask her about the relationship before expecting her to spend the night with you.
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thanks but my fear is that if I am on the right track asking her would really freak her out ruining any chances I might have had.
I didn't catch the spending the night bit. I still don't know where she is at but if she is spending the night you will know by the end of that date.
 
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Any ideas how to get close to her on that night (meaning not going to slow, but not to fast either).
 
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jameswhitt wrote :
Any ideas how to get close to her on that night (meaning not going to slow, but not to fast either).
Dude, serious question: does she even know that you are interested in her other than as a friend? You have known her for two years and you don't know where you stand? What the hell have you been doing? Have you ever been physically intimate with her (holding hands, kissing, fooling around, sex)?
 
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jameswhitt wrote :
Any ideas how to get close to her on that night (meaning not going to slow, but not to fast either).
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Dude, serious question: does she even know that you are interested in her other than as a friend? You have known her for two years and you don't know where you stand? What the hell have you been doing? Have you ever been physically intimate with her (holding hands, kissing, fooling around, sex)?
Yeah it is kinda surprising you don't have a better handle on this by now. Still......

To answer your question you are watching movies. I am assuming you won't be standing for this? Sit on the same sofa, ya know. Don't be stalker like and staring at her but watch her body language. She will most likely move toward you to some extent. Probably touch you.....is this like a first date for you?
 
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If the girl is really interested in you, she will give you plenty of opportunities for you to make a move.
 
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StPaulGuy wrote :
If the girl is really interested in you, she will give you plenty of opportunities for you to make a move.
Ding. We have a winner.

Any girl that is planning on spending the night at your place (whether in your bed or on the couch) is not completely repulsed by you, so that is a good thing. It doesn't SOUND like she thinks of you in a platonic sense, but be careful and choose your words carefully. Does she flirt much? That would be a good sign.
 
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