lucas7419 is offline lucas7419 Post #1  June 24,2010, 5:29am
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Need to know if I am just over analyzing or not

Seeing this girl for three weeks mostly every other day and the whole weekend. We are very much into each other. But every once in a while we are texting and then she just stops responding....
I don't get that and maybe just being stupid but why not respond or something. I only text when I am somewhere where I can't talk on the phone (work, bowling, or kids are around). Any ideas, like last night bowling and we are texting. Trying to sure up what we are doing tonight she is house sitting for a cousin. Tuesday she mentioned the community putting on something and we could go. So I asked if she checked and her response was she hadn't gotten there from work yet. I said that's fine but you know there doesn't have to be something going on I will still come out to see you. She said that I was sweet and she knew, she just worries when I drive that far because I am always leaving late and she worries about me driving home. I say I know but it's worth it, but if you don't want me coming out tomorrow let me know. So last text I send was did you get the class you needed/wanted? No response a hour goes by now it is 920. So I text her good night. She responds saying she was just getting in bed and asked how I did. Told her and she reponds. So I ask do I get to see you tomorrow or will we just wait for the weekend? No response Why was texting invented? Why stop responding? Prob just over thinking things
 
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OMG. you again!!!!!

i don't have endless time to text constantly. my guess is she got busy or just wanted to be left alone for a bit or was blowdrying her hair.

watch it with the endless texting- it can easily become annoying.
 
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I may be old fashioned, but how about waiting to have a conversation until you can get to a working phone? Save the texting for quick things like letting her know you're on your way, or that you'll be 10 minutes late.

If you need a direct answer to a question, call. Don't text. If you're actually speaking to each other, she has to respond promptly.
 
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What scarlet said. Texting too much is a bit annoying, although it is easy to get caught up in it early on in relationships. Maybe she fell asleep since she said she was getting into bed? Don't worry about it, dude.
 
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To the OP - turn off the computer and put away your texting gizmo for a few hours. Then come back and re-read your post. Can't you just see the desperation and obsessiveness oozing from it?

Snap out of it, man.
 
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Yep

Man dating is frustrating....especially when it has been so long since you had to do it. Was dating three girls and narrowed it down to her because we fit better than the others. Which is obvious by how much we see each other. Like I said just over thinking everything. Reason behind it though. All my friends are married so you guys get to help me out through this.

I do like her a lot and the last time I dated was when I was 19 and that was to my ex. Things have changed. Really just trying to make sure I don't mess up with her.
 
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melman wrote :
To the OP -
Snap out of it, man.
LOL!
 
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lucas7419 wrote :
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Man dating is frustrating....especially when it has been so long since you had to do it. Was dating three girls and narrowed it down to her because we fit better than the others. Which is obvious by how much we see each other. Like I said just over thinking everything. Reason behind it though. All my friends are married so you guys get to help me out through this.

I do like her a lot and the last time I dated was when I was 19 and that was to my ex. Things have changed. Really just trying to make sure I don't mess up with her.
a lot of people say this, i've noticed. then something bad happens.

it's not about messing up. sometimes, things just don't work out, but trying to hard is a sure way to push someone away. I'm not saying that you should ignore her completely, but I do get a sense of desperation from the texts in your OP. stop that.
 
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lucas7419 wrote :
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Man dating is frustrating....especially when it has been so long since you had to do it. Was dating three girls and narrowed it down to her because we fit better than the others. Which is obvious by how much we see each other. Like I said just over thinking everything. Reason behind it though. All my friends are married so you guys get to help me out through this.

I do like her a lot and the last time I dated was when I was 19 and that was to my ex. Things have changed. Really just trying to make sure I don't mess up with her.
wow... I think you've just written the story of my life!!

I know people on here will tell you to put down the gadgets and have a real conversation... I actually see nothing wrong with texting, emailing, phone calls (personally hate IM though). You use whatever mechanism that is more convenient for you at the time. A phone call holds you in one place, and insists that you have a conversation about any random thing that comes to mind. Texts are very convenient for quick (hint, hint) questions and to touch base.

I think the issue does come into play when you want to text for an hour back and forth. If you don't have a few lines of quick words, or to share a story, and expect a conversation in text, then you might be asking for a little much. Send email or give her a call instead. That way, she's able to answer all of your questions, and you feel fulfilled at the same time.

It's also nice to see guys who actually enjoy staying in touch and communicating. That is very important to me, and I have learned that not all people are like that. When it comes to communicating... I believe that like people should date like. It because extremely frustrating for both parties, when they have different approaches to the need to stay in touch and communicate regularly.
 
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I have been going through a similar situation and at one point started thinking her not responding was meaning that she was just not interested and sending me a signal.

What you have to remember is you have no clue what they are doing when you send them a text. I have texted with her when she was at a ball game or with her friends at a party. So you can see why there would be reasons not to respond quickly all the time.
 
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