Clingy v. Good Communicator

I also like to talk and be in touch frequently too.

I think a clingy person might text, email and initiate calls, in some kind of combination, without any kind of reciprocation from the other person. Multiple texts and emails back and forth each day are fine, but without responses, it looks like the person is trying desperately to get the other person's attention. It's also very clingy to expect phone calls after spending the day in communication. Not everyone likes to spend loads of time every night talking on the phone (go figure!).

I think someone who communicates well and very frequently, but doesn't come across as clingy, is receptive to cues on how much the other person likes to communicate. He or she might ask when they should call. They patiently wait for responses to text/email without timing the person and analyzing intervals of contact for motivation.

Considering things I've read here, the good communicator doesn't say they will speak to someone on Tuesday night because one partner is busy until that evening, then barrage the person with texts, wondering why the person is taking 5 hours to respond to a message..... that would be pretty needy, by my estimation.

I don't think you're looking for things like they say what they mean, not expect you to read between the lines or use your psychic powers to know what they're really thinking, right?

I think it boils down to the motivation behind the communication -- if it's because it's reciprocated and there is a good rapport, then good. If it's because you feel anxious if you're out of contact with the other person, then bad.

When I'm getting to know a person, I like to talk to them often and am happy to talk, text or email with them fairly frequently.

Good communicator = you like the person.

Clingy = you don't like the person.

However, it should be noted that frequency of communication can turn you from being liked to not liked, and vice versa.

The frequency of communication says a lot about the share of mind (for lack of a better term) that you are giving the other person.

I expect my matches to have a busy life that does not depend on me. Prior to being exclusive, I don't expect frequent communication, wouldn't want it, and wouldn't reply to it. If it persisted anyway, a "talk" would have to take place.