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sseckels is offline sseckels Post #1  June 21,2010, 7:23pm
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Hi all I am having nothing but bad luck with this e harmony site. Lately I am finding and this is in my own option that women don't appreciate guys that are too nice in the way they show their personality. And the attractive women one's that categorize us as being gay, because the way talk in the right ways and the way we dance the right ways and the way we treat women with respect. {this is not cool! being categorized}

I personally when i am on that site I communicate with all my matches ... I am finding women that are attractive don't communicate with all their matches - they choose ones that are best looking and rule out ever talking to guys like me sorry to say we are not best looking but we have a great personality who you get to know us more .....

Now the ones that are not best looking that are over weight hit me up all the time ........ I have dated these women who are and sorry to say I don't have the right chemistry, it just because i am a slider guy and would like to have the same in a women so can love and enjoy life together..... and In the two years on e harmony has not happen to me ..... I been finding stupid ignorant women that don't want to get to know me they want the most meaner guy and best looking that is a jock probably because society of Hollywood wants us to be happy as sexy women getting what they want............ their got to be a change and be like in the past probably as far back as 18th century where more attractive women appreciate guys like me more......... I am just wanting that relationship ---- I am a christian man and I know god fills all the rest I am just not happy
 
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Iconography is offline Iconography Post #2  June 21,2010, 7:35pm
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Oh, no... another "nice guy" thread.

I've tried to formulate a coherent and relevant reply but it's apparently too late in my time zone.

I'll say this, though: if the "attractive women" really are "ignorant" and "stupid," you should be glad for them going after the mean guys. You wouldn't want a woman like that anyway... unless, of course, you want her only for her looks?
 
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livenlearn is offline livenlearn Post #3  June 21,2010, 7:47pm
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Oh, no... another "nice guy" thread.

I've tried to formulate a coherent and relevant reply but it's apparently too late in my time zone.

I'll say this, though: if the "attractive women" really are "ignorant" and "stupid," you should be glad for them going after the mean guys. You wouldn't want a woman like that anyway... unless, of course, you want her only for her looks?
Pstttt, he doesnt even see the irony of his own post. The part where the beautiful women wont get to know him. Yet the over weight women he just doesnt have chemistry for (wont get to know them). Pttthhhhhhhtttttt
 
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Hi all I am having nothing but bad luck with this e harmony site. Lately I am finding and this is in my own option that women don't appreciate guys that are too nice in the way they show their personality. And the attractive women one's that categorize us as being gay, because the way talk in the right ways and the way we dance the right ways and the way we treat women with respect. {this is not cool! being categorized}

I personally when i am on that site I communicate with all my matches ... I am finding women that are attractive don't communicate with all their matches - they choose ones that are best looking and rule out ever talking to guys like me sorry to say we are not best looking but we have a great personality who you get to know us more .....

Now the ones that are not best looking that are over weight hit me up all the time ........ I have dated these women who are and sorry to say I don't have the right chemistry, it just because i am a slider guy and would like to have the same in a women so can love and enjoy life together..... and In the two years on e harmony has not happen to me ..... I been finding stupid ignorant women that don't want to get to know me they want the most meaner guy and best looking that is a jock probably because society of Hollywood wants us to be happy as sexy women getting what they want............ their got to be a change and be like in the past probably as far back as 18th century where more attractive women appreciate guys like me more......... I am just wanting that relationship ---- I am a christian man and I know god fills all the rest I am just not happy
Wow, you expect to find someone here when you seem to be picking all over womens flaws??? You're going to keep having the same luck with that attitude.
 
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Pstttt, he doesnt even see the irony of his own post. The part where the beautiful women wont get to know him. Yet the over weight women he just doesnt have chemistry for (wont get to know them). Pttthhhhhhhtttttt
I was thinking the same exact thing livenlearn.

To the OP: Bottom line is there are gross generalizations that are being made as to why these women might not be communicating with you. It might be that they are not connecting with some part of your profile, you may not know what matches she is receiving, and yes it may come down to whether or not she is attracted to your pics or not. Just like you may or may not be attracted to the women who want to communicate with you.

It is a part of life and the best thing to do is to have a good attitude about it. It only takes one person and she is out there for you. It may take awhile, but stick with it. I've been with eH for quite awhile and while I have not met my future partner, I've learned, I've grown, and as a Christian too I trust in God in this aspect. He knows best regarding the when and who.
 
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sseckels is offline sseckels Post #6  June 22,2010, 9:35am
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no i am a slider guy, having bad luck on this site and not a flaw with women its the truth and it hurts with these attractive women being so picky society is mest up
 
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Soooooo many directions to go with this thread.

As it is, it is a perfect example of how everything is subjective.
The world is NOT round.


If it were round, I would have no need for my Jeep(s).
Everyone is perfect for someone. The key is in finding that someone and not get frustrated / go crazy / turn to the "dark side" while doing so. Things that are easy have little value.

As for my experience with EH, every woman I met was incredible. The woman I feel in love with just happens to be incredible and incredibly beautiful.
Perseverance. Enjoy the "learning curve"
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #8  June 22,2010, 9:45am
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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no i am a slider guy, having bad luck on this site and not a flaw with women its the truth and it hurts with these attractive women being so picky society is mest up
Dude....it's not just 'society'. Don't you see that you yourself do the very same thing? You pass on the less attractive women and want the hot ones who pass you by. I'm not saying you should or shouldn't do this.... but don't complain about society doing something that you're doing as well.
 
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What the heck is a "slider guy"?
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #10  June 22,2010, 10:10am
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sseckels is English your first language? I read your OP and could only understand about half of it.
 
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