Guys: What makes a woman totally awesome to you?


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Kelly314159 is offline Kelly314159 Post #1  June 19,2010, 4:31pm
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I am an older woman (mid-40s) and want to know what makes a guy fall head over heals for someone. I'm not talking about general qualities (nice, pretty, educated, confident etc.). But more specifically, her behavior. What did she do that made her super cool to you? What set her apart from the other women you've dated? How did you know she was the one?
 
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Good question! I'm interested to hear what the guys have to say.
 
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Nanette is offline Nanette Post #3  June 19,2010, 4:42pm
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i'm sure dl is busy typing up his response and almost equally sure it will inadvertently have something to do with money
 
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Can_I_just_be_Jo is offline Can_I_just_be_Jo Post #4  June 19,2010, 4:52pm

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You do realize that every guy is going to give a different answer. If every guy wanted the same thing then every woman would be the same.
 
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I think a person can only pretend to be something they're not for so long... and eventually, the real you is going to come out. So, IMO... best bet, is not what makes a guy think he's totally into you (or the persona you've created to attract him)... but, instead, be yourself and attract guys who ARE totally into YOU... not the person you are trying to be.

IMO... the things to work on that all people seem to appreciate are individuals who have a positive attitude, who can smile, laugh and have fun.
 
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Kelly314159 is offline Kelly314159 Post #6  June 19,2010, 5:14pm
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OK. I'm a newbie so I don't know how to quote other posts.

@ jussmile : This isn't about changing who YOU are but more about the behaviors that convey certain messages. Sometimes we are not aware of how certain behaviors are perceived by the opposite sex both positive and negative. I'm just doing a survey :-)

@ Can_I_just_be_Jo : Yes, I fully expect a wide range of answers but so far only the women have replied.
 
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have him at HELLO
 
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I'll tell you what my guy told me: I provide moral and emotional support, deep interest in what he does for a living (which consumes his life), and I offered to help him in his career. All of this turns out to be exactly what he'd been hoping a woman would offer him: without knowing it or without any planning on my part, I just happened into doing all the right things that met his very particular needs.

(Having said that, he has not yet said that I am "the one," but there have been hints in that direction. I'm taking it one day at a time.)
 
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Kelly314159 wrote :
I'm not talking about general qualities (nice, pretty, educated, confident etc.). But more specifically, her behavior. What did she do that made her super cool to you?
What qualities are we talking about?
I think most go for niceness.
 
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A hugely universal quality that men look for is a minimal amount of moodiness and irritability.

Positivity goes a long way.
 
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