ConfusedDude50 is offline ConfusedDude50 Post #1  June 19,2010, 12:00pm
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does it matter?
 
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does it matter?
It does if you don't own or have access to transportation!
 
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Absent that, it does. A lot.
 
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Iconography is offline Iconography Post #4  June 19,2010, 12:20pm
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It does.

Take it from someone who is in a LDR (and one that started as a LDR), it really, really, really does.
 
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it only matters as much or as little as any other issue. and in the end- for me- there are more important things to consider.

so, for me- it does not matter.
 
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It does because it costs money to get from point A to point B. Some people don't have much. Some people don't have the time either.

So, unless you are willing to put in the effort and money into the relationship, you aren't going to get very far.
 
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Even if there are more important things to consider (and I do agree with you, notyet!), geographical distance is a huge factor in a relationship. How often can the couple get together? Is it often enough to suit them and to make the relationship feasible? How long is the distance going to be a factor? Can someone move? Does someone want to move? Etc.

It can take a lot more work to make such a relationship work, to keep it from devolving into penpalship or even less.

Starting long-distance is not for the faint of heart. This isn't the same at all as saying it shouldn't be attempted, but there has to be some very special connection there.
 
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Yes, it does.

If I really like someone, I want to spend a lot of time with them

If I don't like him that much, he might as well live on the moon for all I care.
 
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ConfusedDude50 wrote :
does it matter?
Of course it matters!

If the person is so far away that you can never (rarely ever) meet, what's the point?
 
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The truth is, it matters in a myriad of ways, but it can only matter as much as the couple allows it to matter. For my husband and I, we decided that while it was difficult, we were willing to date LD, and it worked for us - like someone pointed out, you need some $$ for this, and thankfully neither of us were completely poor, but it did cost us $$ to fly. Of course, it was well worth it, but like another pointed out, it is not for the faint of heart.

The best I can tell you is, it is worth it for the right person.
 
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