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I have a date for Saturday night that was planned two weeks ago. Communication has been limited since we set up the date, but what we are planning to do has been set.

Since I did the asking, I was just wondering how far ahead I should confirm the time and location we are meeting?
 
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I think it is fine to call or e-mail, and ask if he wishes to "touch base" sometime during the day Saturday - state it in a way which implies you just want to make sure the schedules are still unchanged.

When I meet Friday after work, I always make it a point to plan to call Friday afternoon, in case either of us can't leave work by the necessary time.
 
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There is a set starting time for the event we are attending and I would be nice to know before Saturday what time I need to be ready. I agree that I should keep it casual and touch base, but can I call or email today or should I wait until say Thursday?

Ugh, I hate this part of it!
 
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I wouldn't be bothered at all by an e-mail with this question. If one or the other of you is picking the other up, then it seems more than reasonable to confirm that.

Another option, that may not give quite the same nervous impression, would be to bring up a modification to the plan, such as an additional activity before or afterward (this is expecially good if you already know enough about the person that the online date uncertainty is gone.)

Really, there is no need to worry over what day to call!
 
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Thursday would be when I'd call, and I'd hope to hear back the same day if I got his voicemail.

Good luck!
 
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Thursday would be when I'd call, and I'd hope to hear back the same day if I got his voicemail.

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Is this a first date?

I would expect that you would continue with your regular communications until the date. In these communications you can mention the upcoming date. Just because you have scheduled a date does not mean that you no longer need to communicate on a regular basis.
 
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I think you can call and confirm when you want or need to know the timing. Or if you have some lingering concern that he'll flake on the plan, and you have an alternate opportunity arise.

In other words, if you need or want to know, you can call. I don't think the particular day you do it matters.
 
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lacedwithhope wrote :
Thursday would be when I'd call, and I'd hope to hear back the same day if I got his voicemail.

Good luck!
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