First Experience With A Guy Lying About His Height


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Wonderwoman402 is offline Wonderwoman402 Post #1  June 15,2010, 3:54pm
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I met a new match today (not from eHarmony). He did not have a photo on his profile, but after a few emails we discovered we work at that same large employer. He works in a dept I'd never even heard of; we have no interactions at all at work so it didn't violate my "no dating of coworkers" rule. Since we work in the same large building, several floors apart, we met late this morning.

He'd seen photos of me, and I told him what I was wearing so he could identify me in the lobby. All I had to go from was his profile description which included "salt and pepper" hair and that he's 5'10" tall.

The guy who came up to me and introduced himself as my match had gray hair (okay I'll overlook the 'salt and pepper' fudge on that one, though there was definitely no "pepper"), looked many years older than his stated age (though people age at different rates, so I'm not assuming a lie here), but could NOT have been over 5'7". He was certainly no where near 5'10".

Now, I've posted on here several times about how I've dated shorter guys, at least one seriously/long-term. I have NO problem dating a shorter guy whatsoever. However, the fact that he lied about his height is very off-putting to me. Really, it's not like your match isn't going to notice the first time you meet! After the numerous height threads on here I guess I'm a slight bit sympathetic to the fib, but it's the first time I ran into it in real life and it really threw me.

He seemed nice enough otherwise that we'll probably go out again in a couple weeks (I'm traveling next week for work, so timing isn't great for going out right away). But... I just really don't get the lying about your height thing at all especially since it will be so obvious when you meet.

Not sure I have a question... just sayin' guys, it's not cool to lie on your profile, even if you're short.
 
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sorry!
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Can't fault you for turning down someone on the lie.

However ... having continued on with the first meeting is to have accepted it, and therein lies the problem you now face.
 
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I've come to look at it as an act of desperation, not that I'm condoning it. But, basically, they are increasing the number of people who will have a face-to-face meet with them. Ultimately this may net them a relationship.
 
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sorry...i'll stay away...i promise.
 
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PY_2 wrote :
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PY lol quit taking away yer posts! You naughty insensitive boy. How am I supposed to have a good discussion about what you posted now that you took it away?
 
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PY lol quit taking away yer posts! You naughty insensitive boy. How am I supposed to have a good discussion about what you posted now that you took it away?
you can email me instead...no point bringing it up here
 
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nightling wrote :
PY lol quit taking away yer posts! You naughty insensitive boy. How am I supposed to have a good discussion about what you posted now that you took it away?
you can email me instead
 
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I am going to quote this before you can take it back! So there!
 
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Wonderwoman402 wrote :
I met a new match today (not from eHarmony). He did not have a photo on his profile, but after a few emails we discovered we work at that same large employer. He works in a dept I'd never even heard of; we have no interactions at all at work so it didn't violate my "no dating of coworkers" rule. Since we work in the same large building, several floors apart, we met late this morning.

He'd seen photos of me, and I told him what I was wearing so he could identify me in the lobby. All I had to go from was his profile description which included "salt and pepper" hair and that he's 5'10" tall.

The guy who came up to me and introduced himself as my match had gray hair (okay I'll overlook the 'salt and pepper' fudge on that one, though there was definitely no "pepper"), looked many years older than his stated age (though people age at different rates, so I'm not assuming a lie here), but could NOT have been over 5'7". He was certainly no where near 5'10".

Now, I've posted on here several times about how I've dated shorter guys, at least one seriously/long-term. I have NO problem dating a shorter guy whatsoever. However, the fact that he lied about his height is very off-putting to me. Really, it's not like your match isn't going to notice the first time you meet! After the numerous height threads on here I guess I'm a slight bit sympathetic to the fib, but it's the first time I ran into it in real life and it really threw me.

He seemed nice enough otherwise that we'll probably go out again in a couple weeks (I'm traveling next week for work, so timing isn't great for going out right away). But... I just really don't get the lying about your height thing at all especially since it will be so obvious when you meet.

Not sure I have a question... just sayin' guys, it's not cool to lie on your profile, even if you're short.
Sorry, I'm 5'7" not 5'9" over even 5"8" Lying is lying and I for one will not accept it. I am proud of who and what I am. If some elect to close a match based upon something that mundane, it's their problem and they have done me a favor.
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