colormepretty is offline colormepretty Post #1  June 14,2010, 8:31am
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I have been talking to a guy from a dating site for a lil under a month were both in our late 20's, he lives a hour and 1/2 from me, which isnt a big deal for me, or him he has told me on the phone. The thing is i have had a few short term relationships from meeting guys offline, but he has had no experience as far as online dating goes, im the first girl he has met offline ever, he said he always just dated friends that became more, or something of that nature, so im not sure what to expect in that sense, i dont really know what he is looking for when it comes to dating, he basically has in his profile that he wants to find someone who is up for anything, and likes being spontaneous, i am that kinda girl when it comes to being social, but im not sure if he is just looking for some fun since its his first time doing the whole online thing?..

2nd Part of question....we finally had our first date on Satuday. which consisted of me driving to his town( meeting at a cafe very briefly to talk and get a feel if i wanted to drive with him or if he was gonna drive.. things went well so i let him drive)
We went to a state park to see a really cool lookout, dinner, and then a friend of his had a house warming party. He introduced me to all his friends, and a lot of the ppl there really seemed cool and a few of the girls i connected with really well.. his best friends girlfriend and i really hit it off and she invited me on a camping trip with them in a few weeks. He was there and was like yeah that would be cool and smiled at me when they were talking about it. I had a few drinks through out the evening, was having a good time in general. But i really wasnt sure about what he was feeling about me, i at this point am seeing how he interacts with his friends(very laid back, hilarious) he asks me if im having a good time, etc.. and i told him i am, and he was like so am i.. and gave me a big smile. Good sign. lol.
Next thing midnight rolls around and he asks me what i want to do, if i wanted to go back to his place and hang out, watch a movie, etc. and i was a lil hesitant and was planning on going home after the party, but thought what the heck, im a big girl, if things get to physical, ill leave. So we went back to his place watched a movie, he def wasnt as shy as during the begining of the day/evening. We ended up making out off and on for a couple hours, during the movie(didnt try to pressure me to do anything else.. Good boy.). Next thing i know 2am rolls around.. and im really tired, had a few beers, etc. and do not want to drive home. I ask him if he minds of i stay, he said no prob.. we fall asleep after just talking and cuddling its 4 am... Next day..rolls around its noon before we get out of bed..We watch tv and eat lunch together, 3pm rolls around we realize that the day is almost shot, and we both have stuff to do.

So we say our goodbyes, and he gives me a hug/kiss and tells me he would call me later... he text me that he was really tired around 9pm from helping his grandfather all day with a bunch of stuff, and would it be ok if he just called me tomorrow, i said yeah sure, no prob. Im really hoping he calls, I hope he wasnt saying that to be nice, because all the other things that lead up to this have been pretty sweet, and he is really genuine and down to earth. Do you think all of this me staying over, waking up together and seeing each other in all our morning lovliness is too much... im ok with it all. Im just hoping he was.....
 
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richey is offline richey Post #2  June 17,2010, 12:20am
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Hi Color,

Relax.... I think things went fine and I don't think you crossed the line to where he has negative feelings about your character.

If he saw you as somethign else (fill in the word, ho, tramp, whatever)... he would have tried something with you and he didn't.

So I think the end result is that you both really liked each other, enjoyed each other, and felt comfy with each other to spend that much time and "not feel threatened" as it were. That's a good thing.

But your instincts are right as well, in that you want to make sure you aren't rushign this or hurrying it along TOO much. Camping might be okay, but it would be just as okay to decline gracefully and plan to join them next time after you've gotten to know him and his friends a bit more (or atleast go on a couple more dates with him to make sure all is still good, you are still comfy).

As for - "is it just for fun? or is he serious?" Time will tell. I'm not sure yet. But I definitely did not see anythign negative or of concern thus far thatyou've told. It actually sounded very good and sweet to me.

Good luck and keep us posted!
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