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GatorGirl352 is offline GatorGirl352 Post #1  June 13,2010, 7:05pm
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I need some advice (and to vent!). I went on four dates with a guy and communicated off and on for about 3 months with him. Other than initiating 3/4 of the dates and most of the phone calls, he did not act like he was attracted to me. We knew he was going to go to another state for four months and so I assumed that when he still wasn't acting like he liked me by the fourth date and he had not heard from me for two weeks, that there was a mutual understanding that there was no point in pursuing things further. Yet out of the blue, two weeks later, he is calling like nothing happened. After our third date, I tried bringing up what I thought was lack of attraction on his part but he thought the third date had gone fine so I let it go. So I just texted him back that I am busy with work and moving because by us not talking to each other for two weeks, I thought that was enough of a clue that we weren't interested in each other. I guess I expect too much. I would think that if a guy likes you, he would make more eye contact and just otherwise show interest. And this guy does not seem shy either. Oh well. I'm just confused. Sorry for the long and confusing rant. Any thoughts if any of this made sense?
 
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Hes probably seeing other people. I would feel weirded out around a guy that couldnt even make eye contact with me. I dont think I would go out again personally. Its not likely to change
 
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I agree, no eye contact is a bit strange. The no contact for 2 weeks is strange too. I think I would pass on this guy, sounds as though he's got something else going on every 2 weeks, that doesn't involve you.
He doesn't give any excuses? Walk away, and keep looking.

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Nanette wrote :
Hes probably seeing other people. I would feel weirded out around a guy that couldnt even make eye contact with me. I dont think I would go out again personally. Its not likely to change
Yeah, I agree. I'm sure there are more normal fellows to be found.
 
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GatorGirl352 wrote :
... I would think that if a guy likes you, he would make more eye contact and just otherwise show interest....
He could have Asperger's Syndrome. Two key characteristics are the inability to look someone in the eye while speaking to them, and being oblivious of normal social cues and niceties. Did he also tend to get 'stuck' on certain topics he was keenly interested in?
 
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He could have Asperger's Syndrome.
Or he might be a vampire.
 
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Or he might be a vampire.
Nah, then he'd be all sparkly at twilight.
 
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I don't think he has Asperger's as he does make decent eye contact in general and he is not a vampire, I don't think. Maybe I just didn't show enough interest? Oh well. There are other fellows.
 
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You're the plan B, or a way to avoid being totally bored.
 
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I still say he's undead.
 
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