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So when do you girls expect to meet the parents? Or better question when is it been enough time? We appear to be very into each other and have dates planned and seeing each other as much as we can. Just curious when that time would be expected
 
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how long you been seeing each other? just curious.
 
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Meet the parents??

Definitely not whilst still at the "dating" stage. Even when dating has progressed to a committed exclusive relationship, I would give it at least a year or more before meeting the parents. After all, when you meet the other half's parents they will be looking at you as a potential future spouse for their child.
 
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Meet the parents??

Definitely not whilst still at the "dating" stage. Even when dating has progressed to a committed exclusive relationship, I would give it at least a year or more before meeting the parents. After all, when you meet the other half's parents they will be looking at you as a potential future spouse for their child.
Wait at least a year after you're in an exclusive, committed relationship? Perhaps invite them to the wedding and let them meet your SO then...lol? It seems to me that this really elevates the importance of the event way beyond what it needs to be.

I think it depends a lot on circumstances. Do your parents live in the area? Do you normally see them frequently? Have they met your past girlfriends/boyfriends? Bringing along a date to a family BBQ may be no big deal in some families (in which case it doesn't matter how serious the relationship is), whereas in other families it may signal something much more serious. I don't think that it's something that you can really make a "rule" for.
 
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I met my boyfriend's parents 9 months in the relationship. They live about 320 miles away. Personally, I think whenever both parties feel ready to pursue a long-term relationship, it is okay to introduce him/her to the parents. If you want to put a time line, I'd say about 6 months?
 
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It seems a little early since you've only just started dating this girl, but I definitely wouldn't wait a year unless distance dictated it.

I also wouldn't plan something special to meet the parents, keep it casual and short the first time, if possible. If they live in the area, pick up or drop something off at your parent's house when she is out with you.
 
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If you and she come from very close-knit families, or a cultural background where family is everything, on a daily basis not just theoretically, then probably sooner rather than later.

Otherwise ... when there's a degree of security in the relationship. Meeting The Parents can be stressful for a new gf/bf ... lots of pressure to be liked (or hated if the bf/gf hates their parents lol).

A big plus of getting older is meeting the date's parents becomes less and less of an issue, and eventually no issue at all!
 
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I agree with NearDC.

In my case, close to half my partners lived with their parents, and I often met on the first meeting (that's where I went to pick her up.)

If she didn't live with her parents, the next most common was to be with her at the next serious holiday (if the parents were close enough, and her schedule was fitting with my work schedule.) Her parents coming to her home for her birthday or a graduation was also common, so this would be random timing based on when we met versus these events occuring.

If not those, then usually never.
 
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I've never thought that if/when meeting the parents was a big deal. I don't interpret this event as a sign of things to come, but rather a chance to learn more about my date or girlfriend.

Now that I think of it, the last time I met parents was at our first meet. A few dates later she mentioned that I should head over to the tack shop (part of the family ranch) and visit with dad. We had a nice chat over some Wild Turkey. A man-to-man kind of moment.
 
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We had a nice chat over some Wild Turkey.

Bourbon or fowl?
 
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