Dating Pet Peeves... what should you deal with?


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jussmile is offline jussmile Post #1  June 10,2010, 9:48am
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I only have a few pet peeves that are pretty much annoyances, not necessarily deal-breakers... but maybe they should be. I am a decently clean person... definitely not OCD... but, I do like to keep things tidy, not requiring the white glove or anywhere close.

I hope that I will get married again, and dating for me, will lead to long-term companionship, probably marriage. So, with hoping that dating will turn into a long-term situation, living together or marriage, when you're dating someone, how much weight do you put on those little irritants that are somewhat bothersome to you?

For instance, you know how some people make a real mess with the toothpaste cap. They'll screw it back on and just have a glob of dried toothpaste on the cap when you go to unscrew it... this is one of those little annoyances for me. Also, sloppy eating and smacking... again, little annoyance. Since there are so many people in the world, if you do have a list of "known" pet peeves, is it okay to be selective and shy away from dating people like that, especially if you might be living with that person down the road? Or, could that be a sign that you're being way too selective, and possibly looking for a form of perfection that probably doesn't exist.
 
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My two biggest dating peeves are probably lateness and last-minute rearranging of plans because of scheduling conflicts. Both behaviours indicate flakiness and an inability to properly prioritize one's commitments. Chronic tardiness/last-minute rescheduling is a dealbreaker for me.
 
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I've often found that if something annoys you now, it will probably annoy you later.
Now, if you begin to fall for someone, and then notice things they do, you may give them a pass, either conscientiously or sub conscientiously because you're seeing them through the filter of your attraction to them.
In effect, you're accepting those differences you have together, be it toothpaste caps, hair in the drain...underwear on the floor...whatever.
Bottom line: everyone has their habits, idiosyncrasies...everyone.
You have to pick your battles, I guess is another way of putting it.

I think some people want and/or seek clones of themselves...I do.
You'll never find one. And I think that's a good thing, myself.
 
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I don't mind globs of toothpaste, they happen. I've cleaned house for a few girlfriends in the past but not because of any compulsion to neatness, more a case of if i wake up at 3-4am and can't go back to sleep i can't just lay there counting down the hours, i have to get up and do something, be it the dishes in the sink or the kitchen floor.

My pet peeve is the line "If you loved me you'd...X" used to get someones own way. It's pushy and manipulative and i have no time for either.
 
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gothustartus wrote :
i have to get up and do something, be it the dishes in the sink or the kitchen floor.
wow! can you say opposite of pet peeve !! will you marry me!

how many people wake up at 3am to do their SO's dishes! Dishes and laundry are on the bottom of my list... now, if I can just find a man who has them on the top of his!
 
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No one looks good under a microscope.

I tend to hope they don't look at my every minor irritating flaw and I try to give the same courtesy back and not set my focus down too small.

To me, the larger picture is what's important.
 
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jussmile wrote :
I only have a few pet peeves that are pretty much annoyances, not necessarily deal-breakers... but maybe they should be. I am a decently clean person... definitely not OCD... but, I do like to keep things tidy, not requiring the white glove or anywhere close.

I hope that I will get married again, and dating for me, will lead to long-term companionship, probably marriage. So, with hoping that dating will turn into a long-term situation, living together or marriage, when you're dating someone, how much weight do you put on those little irritants that are somewhat bothersome to you?

For instance, you know how some people make a real mess with the toothpaste cap. They'll screw it back on and just have a glob of dried toothpaste on the cap when you go to unscrew it... this is one of those little annoyances for me. Also, sloppy eating and smacking... again, little annoyance. Since there are so many people in the world, if you do have a list of "known" pet peeves, is it okay to be selective and shy away from dating people like that, especially if you might be living with that person down the road? Or, could that be a sign that you're being way too selective, and possibly looking for a form of perfection that probably doesn't exist.

It all depends on how big or significant those pet peeves are in life and ask yourself if you can deal with it.

Nobody will be an absolute perfect match for you. Each person have their own weird or stange habits that each person has to learn to deal with it if it is going to work out.
 
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From MGT101 / Life 101: Learn to pick your battles

Two rules of life:
  • Don't worry about the little things
  • Everything is little
 
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My only (?) pet peeve is when a guy stares at your ... breasticles ... while you're talking to him.

Last edited by lacedwithhope; June 10,2010 at 8:19pm. Reason: Yeh, yeh, it's meant as a compliment? Uh, no. ; )
 
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lacedwithhope wrote :
My only (?) pet peeve is when a guy stares at your ... breasticles ... while you're talking to him.
What if he's talking to them?
 
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