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A match just asked me if I had a favorite restaurant. .... ....Ok HB has recovered from the shock ….
 He lives far away but not too far. I have been to where he lives but do not know of any restaurants there. I rarely eat out and when I do it is by me. I would rather drive towards him then him drive towards me. I do not know what I should say to him.
What do you suggest I do?
 
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You might reply with a type of food / experience you prefer, and let him make the choice?

Another option is to pick up a magazine or something which tends to get restaurant advertising or reviews, and pick one you like.
 
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You could tell him a favorite "chain" restaurant. That would be very generic and not always a fun date. You could also tell him that you don't know the area he lives in well, then tell him what kinds of food you like. This might give him ideas for places to take you.
 
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Why is this shocking? Most of the men who I met who did not live nearby asked me to recommend a restaurant near me for a first meeting. The only time this made me uncomfortable was when this was a first meeting on christmas eve and literally the only open place was 1/4 mile down the road from my house. That was a little too close for comfort. Pick a place you like 15-30 mins closer to him so that you are making it a little more convenient and at the same don't feel like he's invading your space.
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D_Lion wrote :
You might reply with a type of food / experience you prefer, and let him make the choice?

Another option is to pick up a magazine or something which tends to get restaurant advertising or reviews, and pick one you like.
Thanks D_lion he asked me about steak houses.
He saw in my something to talk about section that I like steak houses. I went to one once and liked it that is why I choose that. Hum... I do know of a town that is close to him and I have been a few times. Yet again I have not been to many places to eat. I do know of a little diner in this town. I have been there a few times should I suggest that instead?
 
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A diner is not an acceptable location for a first meeting (to me.)

Don't fake it if you don't want to state a suggestion - ask him to choose.

Pick up a "New Jersey" magazine; plently of restaurant advertisers.
 
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suzyblueeyes wrote :
Why is this shocking? Most of the men who I met who did not live nearby asked me to recommend a restaurant near me for a first meeting. The only time this made me uncomfortable was when this was a first meeting on christmas eve and literally the only open place was the one 1/4 mile down the road for me. That was a little too close for comfort. Pick a place you like 15-30 mins closer to him so that you are making it a little more convenient and at the same don't feel like he's invading your space.
It is shocking to me because the last time a match asked me this question .It was all the way back in January. I have gone months and months with little to no communication with matches… I finally got one that is communicating with me…
I thank you for your input.. gives me something to think about.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
A diner is not an acceptable location for a first meeting (to me.)

Don't fake it if you don't want to state a suggestion - ask him to choose.

Pick up a "New Jersey" magazine; plently of restaurant advertisers.
thanks again D_lion
 
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AndieIsMe wrote :
You could tell him a favorite "chain" restaurant. That would be very generic and not always a fun date. You could also tell him that you don't know the area he lives in well, then tell him what kinds of food you like. This might give him ideas for places to take you.
Good idea thanks Andieisme
 
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Keep the Suggestions coming people… I will check back in tomorrow…
 
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