CreativeGemini is offline CreativeGemini Post #1  June 9,2010, 3:36pm
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Over the past couple of weeks one of my matches from eH and I have been getting to know each other quite well, first we exchanged some lengthy emails and then had a couple of engaging phone conversations.

When I suggested that we hang sometime she came up with idea of watching a movie at a house she is house sitting over the weekend and I accepted it. What are some thoughts on such a 1st date?
 
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If you are asking solely about you comfort at being alone, while this is intensely unpopular with the women here, about half of my first meetings have indeed been at my house or her home (with about half of those really being her parents' home.)

In my case, having met, we then went out, however.

The good news here is that she is not pressuring you for spending.

The bad news is, well, a movie is a bad date idea.
 
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Without any idea about your age(s), I am thinking it is hard to peg. If you are both college kids, 1 thing, if you are in your 40's, another thing. For sure it will be 1 thing - cheap.

Bring some wine and peanut butter....
 
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We're both 27. I'm not uncomfortable with the idea whatsoever, I just found it rather intriguing since I've never been on a 1st date that was at a woman's house. I just felt that she's comfortable enough to suggest such a date. Regardless, the movie idea isn't much, but remember there's the time before and after the movie that's more important.
 
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CreativeGemini wrote :
When I suggested that we hang sometime she came up with idea of watching a movie at a house she is house sitting over the weekend and I accepted it.
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I just found it rather intriguing since I've never been on a 1st date that was at a woman's house.

You still haven't.

Which brings up a point about whether her customer knows of her inapropriate behavior?


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I just felt that she's comfortable enough to suggest such a date. Regardless, the movie idea isn't much, but remember there's the time before and after the movie that's more important.

Keep in mind, you can propose an alternate plan.

This is not without problems:

- You are alone, and have no idea what may develop - and what you may be falsly accused of?

- She may use this lame plan as a test - and you will get dumped if you don't overrule it with "a real date." (Though, in my view, you don't want such a person anyway.)

- Spending weeks (failing to) "getting to know each other," and then only come up with this as a first meeting, sounds like someone with no life. Are there any signs she has activities? A social life?
 
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What's the problem here?
did you watch American Psycho II: All american Girl TOO MANY TIMES?

(As for worries about the house-sitting I'll bet there is a washing machine for the sheets)

I think this chick deserves a field trip. Or you need psychoanalysis.
(Just kidding).
Get it on. Bang a gong. Take plenty of protection (need I say more?)
Oh and a nice wine to share. You ARE of age after all.
 
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D_Lion wrote :

The good news here is that she is not pressuring you for spending.

The bad news is, well, a movie is a bad date idea.
Sheesh. This is why I suggest the wine.
Who watches the movie anyway when you have a supposed match IRL?
Time for all that figuring out stuff.
Chemical tests and analysis.

Ya know, like kissing and stuff?

Or is all this window shopping and choosing of salad dressings?

If you've already communicated. Already seen photos. I don't get the perceived threat or issue. Maybe they have a library of 1000 movies and she wants to see what you pick. Maybe she thinks you are hot and wants to check your temperature.

Just go.
 
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