Avoiding the First Date Disaster


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LAndama is offline LAndama Post #1  June 9,2010, 12:20pm
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What guarantee do I have that the person on the otherline is honest about what they are chatting about? I find it difficult to date a stranger on telephone. I would rather meet them and hope that the first dat is not a disaster. I know it happened to me because the telephone conversations were all kool and when i met him...oh Lord have mercy!
 
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What guarantee do I have that the person on the otherline is honest about what they are chatting about?
None.
That's why you want to meet them in person as soon as you can and in a neutral, public place.
It sounds like you agree with that, so if you're finding they want to be pen pals or, talk for eons....move on, I say.
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There are no guarantees. If there were, we would all be much happier.

However, there are ways to avoid first date disasters.

First and foremost, do not take it for more than it is. It is an initial meeting. A blind date, if that. If you leave your expectations at the door and just concentrate on having fun, then you really can't go wrong. The date may not be great, but you minimize the damage with let downs and disappointments. With nothing to look forward to, you have less to be disappointed.

Worse case scenario, you chalk it up to a bad date, and tell war stories with your friends with it. Best case scenario, you may end up marry the person (or maybe that's the worse case scenario)
 
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Which is why the much maligned "coffee date" is such a great idea for the first face to face meeting!
 
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tweet37 is offline tweet37 Post #5  June 9,2010, 1:24pm
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1. Trust Your Intuition.

2. Take your date from online to offline as soon as possible.

3. Never text message others while on a date .

4. Always meet your date in a public place and don't drive together.

5. Do your homework and study for the quiz.



Does eH pay people to write this stuff? These are all the same things you can read on these boards for free.
 
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tweet37 wrote :
Does eH pay people to write this stuff? These are all the same things you can read on these boards for free.
Yes; but only in Trident Layers.
 
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Yes; but only in Trident Layers.
But....I like Doublemint.
 
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But....I like Doublemint.
Honestly I never figured you were the sort to swing that way.
 
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Honestly I never figured you were the sort to swing that way.
A date with twin girls does that to ya.
 
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LAndama wrote :
What guarantee do I have that the person on the otherline is honest about what they are chatting about? I find it difficult to date a stranger on telephone. I would rather meet them and hope that the first dat is not a disaster. I know it happened to me because the telephone conversations were all kool and when i met him...oh Lord have mercy!
There are NO guarantees in dating or life. Other than death and taxes, of course.
 
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