hbmba24 is offline hbmba24 Post #1  June 8,2010, 6:28pm
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I received a match on this site that I found intriguing so I request communication. We quickly exchanged first questions and must haves/can't stands and then communication stopped. In a week, I sent a nudge and we were quickly through second questions and on to eharmony mail. After five messages back and forth, I gave her my number and she sent me a text message that night. After two short text conversations over the next two days, I asked if it was all right for me to call some time and she said "definitely give me a call." I called once Saturday, once Sunday, and once today, and she has not picked up the phone. I've left two voice mails but have not heard back nor has she sent any texts. The long and short of it is I haven't heard from her since Friday despite trying several times to contact her. The match on the site has not been closed. So what do I do now? Should I let it go or keep trying?
 
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Nanette is offline Nanette Post #2  June 8,2010, 6:31pm
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You've done more than enough. She sounds flaky and not very nice.
 
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loves2write is offline loves2write Post #3  June 8,2010, 6:37pm
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Maybe she was away for the weekend or had other obligations. If you are really interested, give it a little time.
 
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loves2write wrote :
Maybe she was away for the weekend or had other obligations. If you are really interested, give it a little time.
Fair enough. If she calls him back at some point that's all the better. I personally wouldn't call her again if I were the OP.
 
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Did you leave messages on one or all of your calls?

I'd give her a little more time. Maybe she was gone over the weekend or had an emergency come up. Maybe she's on vacation. Who knows? If you really felt interest in her, I'd wait it out a few days.
 
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You did your part and called her and left a mesage....now its up to her to call you back.

Dont wait by the phone for her.

This is quite common with online meeting like eharmony where someone is talking to multiple people at once. so they can forget about some.

She may be more interested in someone else.
 
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If she doesn't get back to you by Friday, close the match. I, too, think she found someone else. This happens, that's why they call them poofers. You can do better, let us know what happens.

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I'd leave it open ... who knows, she was sick, she was on vacation, she's wondering what to do ... just see if she contacts you. It's her turn to make contact.

Meanwhile, check out your other matches, and women you meet in real life, etc. Don't just hang around waiting. Remember, while you've had a nice experience with this woman so far, you haven't met her. She's still a stranger. Don't put yourself on hold.
 
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