Drea847 is offline Drea847 Post #1  June 8,2010, 5:24pm
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I've been communicating with this guy for the past 2 weeks and things have moved along pretty quickly. He was the one initiating the contact and indicating his interest. We moved pretty quickly through the communication stages and e-mailed about every day. He said he believed things were going positively so far and asked for my phone number. I gave it to him a week ago today and haven't heard from him since.

We haven't met in person yet, so I'm wondering if the same dating rules apply (if he's interested he'll call within a week). In a nutshell, I'm wondering if he is still interested, if I should be a little more patient, and if I should send him a quick "how have you been e-mail?"
 
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Send him an e mail. Men operate on a different time clock. Keep it light and breezy. No accusations. I've even offered to call.
 
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I agree with Alli824.

Why on earth would you sit and wait, when you could be taking action?

I might poke at him a bit though, since a week is too long to dwadle.
 
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It is customary for the man to give his number first. I always ensure a day and time that is best to call as well.

I would not call at this point.
 
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Dont call.

He has your number. I would just keep looking for others that want to meet right away rather than dragging it out for any reason. I'm sure someone will come along and say that maybe something happened blah blah, and that certainly is possible, but I would say not likely.

Move along.
 
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Yonder Nanette secretly thinks you should Call, and hopes to work up the Nerve to Call some Fine menz herself, someday.

I strive to encourage this!
 
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someone needs a spanking!
 
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If waiting for him to call is driving you crazy, email him and ask him out for lunch. See what happens.
 
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Drea847 wrote :
I've been communicating with this guy for the past 2 weeks and things have moved along pretty quickly. He was the one initiating the contact and indicating his interest. We moved pretty quickly through the communication stages and e-mailed about every day. He said he believed things were going positively so far and asked for my phone number. I gave it to him a week ago today and haven't heard from him since.

We haven't met in person yet, so I'm wondering if the same dating rules apply (if he's interested he'll call within a week). In a nutshell, I'm wondering if he is still interested, if I should be a little more patient, and if I should send him a quick "how have you been e-mail?"
Since you gave him your number ----were you two emailing?


He could have misplaced it.

He may be looking for a good time to call you when he feels like he can sit down and talk to you.

This past week you have NHL/NBA finals happening almost every night so he may want to watch that instead of talking to you.

Its also possible---this is quite common---where people are interested and they are talking to you every day and then they suddenly stop and forget about it. There are numerous reasons. One reason to address here....dont assume you are the only one they are talking to...so he may have gotten to talking to someone else first and they had a date or are planning on a date.
 
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I'd see it as the ball's in his court. He got your number (you don't have his, right?) -- if he lost it, he could email you.

So I'd wait, see if he calls. As ami1uwant said, it's a big sports week ... lots of people are out of contact right now! Or or or ... could be lots of reasons.

Meanwhile ... don't put yourself on hold, waiting to see what he does. Be open to meeting other men. Good luck with it!
 
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