How different is/ was your match.com experience?


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cal_dude is offline cal_dude Post #1  June 8,2010, 4:53pm
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I've learned quite a bit reading the POF thread. So I was wondering to hear about recent match.com experiences. They are even bigger now, absorbing the customer base of yahoo personals. When I tried it few years ago, I liked it less than EH. But it'd be interesting to hear from those currently on both sites.
 
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Interesting statistics: probably explained by match's recent acquisitions and EH interface "upgrades"
Site Comparison of eharmony.com (rank #491), match.com (#119) | Compete
 
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I had about the same success on Match and eHarmony (one quality meeting per month, and one new partner every three to six months.)

I hated using Match, though, compared to eHarmony.

So few women answer their e-mail, that I ended up just waiting for them to write me, at which point I replied. Too frustrating to put work into such a thing.
 
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I was on match for 2 days and deactivated my profile. I found it overwhelming and very uncomfortable. The number of emails was in the hundreds on the first day. I couldn't believe it. All any of them seemed to want was more photos. I did not even know how to begin to sort though all that and had no idea how to find a quality person in the middle of it.

My eHa experience was much more positive. I felt the matches were of higher quality and seemed more serious about finding a relationship instead of a hookup. My only complaint was the lack of matches within 100 miles of me.
 
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FruitaBu wrote :
I was on match for 2 days and deactivated my profile. I found it overwhelming and very uncomfortable. The number of emails was in the hundreds on the first day. I couldn't believe it. All any of them seemed to want was more photos. I did not even know how to begin to sort though all that and had no idea how to find a quality person in the middle of it.

My eHa experience was much more positive. I felt the matches were of higher quality and seemed more serious about finding a relationship instead of a hookup. My only complaint was the lack of matches within 100 miles of me.
Just out of curiosity, did you have enough clear photos on match so that the guys could get a good idea of what you looked like? Were these requests for clarification, or for a thrill?
 
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I did not and do not care for Match. The attitude is cavalier and most don't seem to want to meet.
 
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I wanted to meet.

Too bad the women were too rude to acknowledge I might have been a living person.
 
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I have had a far more positive experience on match.com than I have had on eHarmony. eHarmony does not have many matches for me. On match.com I find literally hundreds of matches to browse and sort through in many different ways. You can set your search criteria as narrow or as wide as you want and search by many different criteria that eHarmony totally ignores. Plus, you can tell who is recently active on the site and who is not so you don't waste your time contacting inactive matches.

I have found that if you set your criteria sufficiently high, you can come up with better matches on match.com than what eHarmony gives you. I get a desirable amount of matches contacting me, and when I contact a guy there I nearly always get a response.

I believe FruitaBu experienced what I call "fresh meat" syndrome on there. A brand new profile gets a lot of attention. Most of those initial contacts can be safely ignored as they are the guys who spam every new profile with the same message without having read the profile. Give it a week or two and that will die down considerably. It then becomes pretty easy to pick out the sincere ones who actually read your profile before they wrote you.

Yeah, there are some oddballs on match.com, but you know what? eHarmony matched me with a guy who was a doorman at a nudey bar, so I'd say they're about equal on that count. I cannot truthfully say that eHarmony has "higher quality" matches than match.com. In terms of actual contacts/meets with dating prospects, I have to say match.com is superior, hands down.
 
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I'm on both eHarmony and Match. I've been on both for about 1 week now. The thing I like about Match is that you know the last time someone has been online; be it, 24 hours, 3 days or more than 3 weeks. The browsing aspect is kind of cool too.

I've had about 15 eharmony matches and I've started communication with 4 of them. I havn't been closed (oh wait, "archieved") nor have questions been answered...

Initiating contact on Match can be sort like having writer's block. Perhaps the person has decent pics, but their profile isn't inviting nor does really say much. At least the canned answers from eHarmony can get the ball rolling.

Time to wait and see.
 
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