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I went on a great first date with a guy last Tuesday. We went for a nice dinner (he paid) and went back to his apartment to watch a movie we had been talking about. There was lots of great conversation and yes, lots of kissing, etc...

He called me on Thursday night and I missed the call. I called him back 5 minutes later but he didn't answer. He called me back again on Saturday and we talked for about 10 minutes before I had to go. I called him back again that night (as we agreed) and he didn't answer. I haven't heard from him and it's now Monday night.

Am I expecting too much? I know his teenage daughter was visiting for the weekend so he was definitely tied up until late Sunday. But it's now been more than 48 hours and I haven't heard a peep. What's the deal? Is he just not that into me? And how do I proceed? I'd like to call but I feel like the ball is in his court. I've made the mistake in the past of looking too desperate and pursuing the wrong guys, so I'm afraid to make a move.

I really liked this guy and thought we had a lot of chemistry so I'm uncertain and starting to feel disappointed. Thoughts? Thanks!
 
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48 hours is a very long time not to return a call, in my experience.

Right now, it seems you are only doing "phone tag," so there doesn't seem to be any problem there. You could switch to e-mail, or leave a message which has a time you can be reached.
 
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Hi hollville and welcome to EHA!

So ... now it's late monday evening have you heard from him yet?

I think it's a little early to be getting upset about not getting a call ... he was tied up all weekend, so really today's the first day you might have heard from him. You've had 1 date, 6 days ago.

Too soon to be upset! If I'm reading your phone-tag right, it's his turn to go. Give it at least a couple more days. Good luck!
 
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I went on a great first date with a guy last Tuesday. We went for a nice dinner (he paid) and went back to his apartment to watch a movie we had been talking about. There was lots of great conversation and yes, lots of kissing, etc...

He called me on Thursday night and I missed the call. I called him back 5 minutes later but he didn't answer. He called me back again on Saturday and we talked for about 10 minutes before I had to go. I called him back again that night (as we agreed) and he didn't answer. I haven't heard from him and it's now Monday night.

Am I expecting too much? I know his teenage daughter was visiting for the weekend so he was definitely tied up until late Sunday. But it's now been more than 48 hours and I haven't heard a peep. What's the deal? Is he just not that into me? And how do I proceed? I'd like to call but I feel like the ball is in his court. I've made the mistake in the past of looking too desperate and pursuing the wrong guys, so I'm afraid to make a move.

I really liked this guy and thought we had a lot of chemistry so I'm uncertain and starting to feel disappointed. Thoughts? Thanks!
Most people are busy on Mondays...I wouldn't worry just yet if I were you, especially because he's a single parent and he got the teenage daughter last weekend.

Wait a couple more days..
 
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