lucas7419 is offline lucas7419 Post #1  June 7,2010, 6:36am
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Ok said this before been 15 years since I've had to try dating. Had two dates this weekend. The first on Friday was good and she seemed to want to make all the moves which I kinda prefer a bit right now. But I think I liked my date with the other girl more on Saturday. We even went out again Sunday. Held hands during the movie. This girl seems like she is going to want me to make any moves ( the hand holding I initiated and it continued the rest of the night with some light touching of the wrist and arm). When do girls prefer is the right time or enough time to be kissed?

This sounds lame asking but I didn't want to try on the second date since I do really like her.
 
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well, what vibes you were picking up from her, if any?
if everything else was going well, go for it.
Don't overthink it, really..

You've been on two dates already, I don't think she'll slap you.
 
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Ok said this before been 15 years since I've had to try dating. Had two dates this weekend. The first on Friday was good and she seemed to want to make all the moves which I kinda prefer a bit right now. But I think I liked my date with the other girl more on Saturday. We even went out again Sunday. Held hands during the movie. This girl seems like she is going to want me to make any moves ( the hand holding I initiated and it continued the rest of the night with some light touching of the wrist and arm). When do girls prefer is the right time or enough time to be kissed?

This sounds lame asking but I didn't want to try on the second date since I do really like her.
Every woman is different. It seems to me that she likes you if she held your hand for the entire date. The third date is plenty of time for a first kiss, so go for it, and she will let you know immediately if she isn't interested. If it is not enough time for her, I doubt that she would hold it against you for trying...the only thing that would cause me to end it in that situation is if he didn't stop when asked.
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If she liked holding hands then yes, she likes you and does not mind physical contact. Definitely don't over think things and.....don't just jump in and ambush her with a kiss because it's on your mind. At the end of the third date is probably easiest. Also, you can easily read her body language at that point - is she lingering and looking at you or looking away busily searching for keys.
 
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is she lingering and looking at you or looking away busily searching for keys.
She lingers so your saying that is a prob a good sign
 
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She lingers so your saying that is a prob a good sign
Sounds like you're dawdling...while she's lingering...
don't be dawdling...
 
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She lingers so your saying that is a prob a good sign
It's definitely a good sign. If she did not want it, she would be tense and back away and look away and rush to get into her car so you don't even have the chance. Lingering is giving you an opportunity - it's pretty much like a non verbal invitation. That's why I also say that at the end of the date is a good opportunity because at that point it's on both of your minds and the body language speaks volumes.
 
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dude, stop over thinking it. lay one on her, and if she doesn't respond, she doesn't like you enough and probably never will.

if she responds, good for you.
 
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Kiss her when you feel like doing it. Beginning of 3rd date, somewhere in the middle, or at the end. You've already had hand-holding etc and she did not withdraw from that, so it would not be pushy to kiss.

Good luck!
 
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Well we are going to go out Tuesday to the Ranger game. See how it goes thanks for the advice/help
 
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