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constantlywondering is offline constantlywondering Post #1  June 6,2010, 7:21pm
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Ok...so he says he is interested, everything out there says, let the guy do the pursuing, or else they won't be interested. but yet if he is saying he is interested and yet not making the calls to contact and I am the one always having to do the pursuing..is he really that interested? or do some guys just sit back and let the girl do all the pursuing?

should I just stop? I have gone a couple of days without contacting and nothing...so then I will contact...what do I do?
 
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Good question! I'm interested in seeing the responses.
 
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I think there needs to be more choices.
 
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what choice options would you want to see?
 
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I'm not a guy, but I think that everybody wants to be pursued at least a little bit. It makes you feel wanted. That said, if the communication is lopsided and one person is always initiating it, I would probably feel that the other person wasn't all that interested.
 
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In a healthy relationship, no single party does all of the pursuing.
 
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As in every dating subject there are both kinds of men..Some want to be called, some want to do the calling. I think this is the subject du jour right now here!

It also depends on how assertive the woman in question is-we read frequently on eHA that some women wouldn't consider calling a man up and asking him out where others will do so without it being an issue.

This isn't a black and white subject..the man-the woman each have opinions about what is acceptable to them individually.

Why try to fit everything into cubby holes? We are all complex people with differing opinions.
 
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ThePriestess wrote :
In a healthy relationship, no single party does all of the pursuing.
What I was thinking.. If "pursued" question changed to "do men appreciate pro active women?" I think results would be the same (they / we do appreciate), but far more accurately representing opinion.
 
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If you have made a couple of calls/emails and have not received a response, I'd say the ball is in his court.

While we are on the subject, though, I thought about this and realized I have never asked a man out for a first date. I have initiated subsequent dates, but not the first one.

I think I fear that I would be seen as too "pushy." Is that your concern, constantlywondering?
 
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constantlywondering wrote :
Ok...so he says he is interested, everything out there says, let the guy do the pursuing, or else they won't be interested. but yet if he is saying he is interested and yet not making the calls to contact and I am the one always having to do the pursuing..is he really that interested? or do some guys just sit back and let the girl do all the pursuing?

should I just stop? I have gone a couple of days without contacting and nothing...so then I will contact...what do I do?
How did the info come out? How do you know if the guy is interested? I'd say if you're the one who ALWAYS do the pursuing...that means he's not interested.

Man or woman....if one person is doing all or most of the pursuing, then it's not a fair relationship.
 
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