thehdm is offline thehdm Post #1  June 6,2010, 6:42pm
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I met a girl after talking and texting for a while. We had fun and we both decided to see each other again. Im a single dad so I have limited nights with no kids. She knew from our conversations that Tuesday was an "off night". I play softball on tuesday nights. I told her this and said that she was welcome to come watch and then grab a beer afterward. She agreed. Is this a crappy 2nd date? Im flattered that she wants to see me enough that she'd come sit in the heat and watch me and my buddies attempt to play ball together, but Im afraid it could be boring for her. Couple that with the fact that I will smell terrible after, and Im afraid this could be trouble.
 
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livenlearn is offline livenlearn Post #2  June 6,2010, 7:33pm
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Yes, kinda.
But a good sign she likes ya.
Dont push it though.
 
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srtaw is offline srtaw Post #3  June 6,2010, 7:34pm

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Personally, if I'd already gone out w/ you and were interested in seeing you again, I'd totally be up for some softball & beer. I may not show up until half way through the game (that's a long time to sit there, especially if she doesn't know any of the other wives/girlfriends/friends), but it sounds like to a good time to me. (I've spent many an afternoon at the diamond both as a kid and as an adult, though, and love the game.) May not be everyone's idea of a good time, but hey, she agreed. If she really didn't want to go, she could have declined.
 
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Na=this is a great summertime date. Women know when athletic men smell like! If she accepted, she likes you.

But prepare for a bunch of flack from your team about bringing a second date (been there done that heard the Woo-Hoos from the team. And I'm a woman who went for a beer and pizza with the team as a 3rd date)
 
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Sorry but yes, this is hardly even something that can be called a date. In fact you just pretty much told her that she does not rank high enough for you to make time for her, i.e. your regular plans come first and she can be the sidekick if she wants. Very very carpy of you. If you want to go play with your buddies, by all means do it, but if you want to schedule a date with a woman, then make it a date this early on.
 
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Don't worry guy this is an excellent 2nd date idea. Its light, fun, and you get to show off a little. She's gonna have a great time and your gonna be on fire. I give you an A+.
 
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It depends on her. She might like it, and she might not!

I think you should definitely make a plan for a just-the-2-of-you, actual date, though, for your next meeting!
 
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howardtheduck is offline howardtheduck Post #8  June 7,2010, 5:44pm
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If you are worried about your stench. Buy some baby wipes, excuse yourself to a bathroom,clean a little and bring some clean clothes - then you will be showing her that you are interested enough not to be smell rank on your second date.
 
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