Does a women's independence hinder her dating success?

Her main point seems to be that men want to feel needed. If a woman doesn't need a man for the traditional stuff (money, changing the oil, mowing the lawn) how can she still need him? The author's answer is little things like letting him pull out her chair.

The thing a man can provide that I can't cover for myself, is being a man: they're different from me! Male energy, sexuality, male thinking and feeling. I think making it clear to a man that I want and appreciate his maleness should cover it.

Pulling out my chair? I don't care.

The thing with 'independence' is, if a person is living on their own you know they are independent in a physical sense. I think this is why (as the article addresses) such statements are really meant to reflect something about the person in a psychological sense.

You generally don't see men bragging about their 'independence'....so I ask myself why women do so? One possible reason I come up with is that they value independence in men, so they figure men must value it in women as well (which may or may not be the case). Another possible reason I can think of is that the women are, in fact, trying to communicate something about their personality.

I think many people today (both men and women) are very self centered and don't have much interest in compromise or sacrificing for another person. They want to be left to do their own thing and just hope to find someone that they magically mesh with, so as to not have to make some type of sacrifice to make a relationship work. I think men generally don't feel the need to make a specific statement to convey the fact that this is the kind of person they are..... while perhaps women feel they need to make an explicit statement to this effect.

Also, the article talks about vulnerability. In fact, I think being vulnerable is part of the human condition. However, many people don't want the hit to their ego that showing this vulnerability would involve.

The thing with 'independence' is, if a person is living on their own you know they are independent in a physical sense. I think this is why (as the article addresses) such statements are really meant to reflect something about the person in a psychological sense.

You generally don't see men bragging about their 'independence'....so I ask myself why women do so? One possible reason I come up with is that they value independence in men, so they figure men must value it in women as well (which may or may not be the case). Another possible reason I can think of is that the women are, in fact, trying to communicate something about their personality.

I think many people today (both men and women) are very self centered and don't have much interest in compromise or sacrificing for another person. They want to be left to do their own thing and just hope to find someone that they magically mesh with, so as to not have to make some type of sacrifice to make a relationship work. I think men generally don't feel the need to make a specific statement to convey the fact that this is the kind of person they are..... while perhaps women feel they need to make an explicit statement to this effect.

Also, the article talks about vulnerability. In fact, I think being vulnerable is part of the human condition. However, many people don't want the hit to their ego that showing this vulnerability would involve.

So I feel the statement is really more a reaction to being treated as if your capabilities are somehow inferior and that you somehow can't make it in the world on your own simply because you are a girl.