How long into a relationship before a guy can expect a girl to ask him out?


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Antalicus is offline Antalicus Post #1  June 4,2010, 11:19am
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I know that for the most part a guy should be asking the girl out on dates and I have for the past 6 or 7 but when do women feel comfortable enough to ask the guy out?
 
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That's really variable! Some women will never ask a man out, others will ask for the first date. Most women are somewhere in between.

But ... if you say, after 6-7 dates, "Your turn! Ask me out!" that could make it happen sooner. That's assuming you want a woman who will ask you out.
 
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I just don't like having to try and think of something new and exciting to do every time. I mean I can take you to things I like and may think you like all day long but its nice to see what she like to do.
 
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Antalicus wrote :
I just don't like having to try and think of something new and exciting to do every time. I mean I can take you to things I like and may think you like all day long but its nice to see what she like to do.
Why not tell her exactly that? I would think that after 6-7 dates it's high time for her to reciprocate and if she is not doing it on her own, you can always say lightly something along the lines of "how about you come up with the game plan for Friday night this time around."
 
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Antalicus wrote :
I know that for the most part a guy should be asking the girl out on dates and I have for the past 6 or 7 but when do women feel comfortable enough to ask the guy out?
Nothing against you personally, but when I read threads like this, I wonder to myself.."why this guessing game??"
She may never feel comfortable enough....if that's what you're asking.
If you read these boards, apparently..some women never do.

Like someone else said, if you want her to reciprocate, come out and say it...but I wouldn't expect it.
 
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Instead of expecting her to figure out that you want her to ask you out (and plan something) why don't you suggest planning something together?
 
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I can already predict the OP will finally get tired of asking her out...and don't ask her out as much, then she comes on here and post "6 dates and suddenly he stops asking me out..is he a poofer? Is he not into me?? Is it because one of my pants made me look fat?"

I tell you, dating can be an endless source of amusement sometime!
 
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I guess I will constantly wonder why the dating process has to be so one sided. It looks like the guy can't really expect anything unless he brings it up.
 
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Well let's see.....from the female side....if I take charge he'll think I'm bossy and controlling, he'll think I'm smothering him and run away, he'll think that I'm moving things too fast into commitment...the ultimate dreaded word in male world or so we are constantly told, if I plan something so soon he might just freak out that I'm getting too close, too comfortable, too familiar with him, if I ask him out, he might lose interest because he is not chasing anymore......shall I continue or do you get the picture?

Dating is tough on both sides and nobody is a mind reader. If you want a happy relationship, then communicate your needs to your partner instead of sitting in a huff that they can't read your mind.
 
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How else do you expect anyone to know anything that you expect to happen? You cannot expect people to be mind readers. It's really not that hard, just talk to her.
 
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