They say some men like a BBW but where are they at?


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whitman is offline whitman Post #61  May 31,2008, 12:48pm
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pisces,128334 wrote :

Please, for your own sake, stop making excuses and stop looking for men who like BBW. To me, that's a fetish.
I love this woman . . . frank, honest, and doesn't beat around the bush.
 
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I'm what some may call slim but curvy to a point, and I don't necessarily consider myself the healthiest person on the planet. I don't work out. I don't always eat right. And I am not very active on the whole. Yet, people think I am this health nut when they look at my figure. “You definitely work out, right?”

Sometimes nature makes it very difficult to fit into that little box some of you are touting. We have been through this before in another thread where the same factions came out of the woodwork and said that being obese isn't healthy and anyone overweight should make it a life priority to lose. I am inclined to agree that over time, a frame that is carrying around more weight than it is designed to have will break down. My father is an example of a person who was obese a great deal of his life, and now he has issues with his knees. However he cannot feel his feet, and I am not so sure that this health problem is related to his weight. The type of neuropathy that he is suffering from runs in his family--a group of people of all different weights and sizes.

The fallacy here is that people who are thinner are healthier which makes them more desirable, and that is just not always so. These statements are rife with unfair stereotypes. There is extensive research that states obesity can be and often is genetic. That means that I don't do any work and I look like I do, whereas histpsyche does everything right and still battles weight. I think no one on here is qualified to tell the OP what is right for her based on a photo. You would have to examine her entire health history and family as well. I do know that too much weight can cause issues if the heart is working much harder than it should to move the muscles, but thinking that average or thin people are healthier than heavier ones is based on very misleading judgments. That said, I’m going to go for a bike ride. [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-tongue-out.gif[/img]
 
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whitman,128359 wrote :

pisces,128334 wrote :


Please, for your own sake, stop making excuses and stop looking for men who like BBW. To me, that's a fetish.


I love this woman . . . frank, honest, and doesn't beat around the bush.
Thank you! I've walked in her shoes and I know how it feels so I refuse to be anything but honest with her. A person has to have experienced the same thing as someone else {no matter what that might be} in order to be able togive themtruthfuland meaningful advice. Also, I won't beat around the bush, because being overweight is so very unhealthy and unattractive. Like it or not, that's just the way it is and nothing will change it, except for losing weight.
 
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No, I am telling the truth. There is a difference between thick and fat. She is fat, no one wants to be seen with a whale. Come on men, can I get a witness?

Wow, you are a bigot. There are men who like big, as by defined by you as fat, women. Just as there are women who don't mind "big," i.e., fat, men. You need a lesson is what makes a person worthwhile, and size isn't part of that definition. Try sensitivity lessons, try living in a fat suit for a week and see what bigotry can do for an attitude adjustment.
 
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Wow! I'm new to this internet dating and have found it interesting. But when it comes to being 'big', 'large boned' or 'fat' as one guy said, FORGET THE COMMENTS.They're generally the ones who want a photo because they are more interested in a 'shape' than a person. Have you noticed most of the people on here 'need a life'. They watch American Idol, Survivor, tv shows I call em 'wanta life but have no idea how to get one' people. Most are under 40,live with computers and have no idea how to walk up toa man, say "Hi" and get a conversation going.Then a date! If they don't get a photo first they won't talk to ya'. Mostwant 'looks' and could care less about who the person is. They are what I call 'book people' -- they want a pretty cover which has the latest title on in but don't give a darn about what the pages inside say. About me, I'mfat!! I'm 5-3, 198 pounds.I'm 67 years old, was married 34 years (husband died of cancer), I've been through cancer treatments and made it!I'm proud of me and if anyone doesn't like my 'shape' then go jump off a bridge but DO NOT call me because I don't need you........
Yeah for you, you said it and I can only agree. I'm 62, not tiny, but 5'8" and fat. I only dislike the fat because of how it can affect my life, other than that, I have more than most people in just about any area, as apparently do you. Smart women can be great too! Thanks for this post.
 
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technokat,128367 wrote :

That said, I’m going to go for a bike ride. [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-tongue-out.gif[/img]
I am too, I'm on my way out the door for a nice long ride downnear the ocean.


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histpsych,128326 wrote :

Ignite,128075 wrote :


javajava5,128063 wrote :


ambercay3,128009 wrote :


WOW, I can tell you have very little self respect


Dear AmberCay3,


Yes, most sadly, Ignite does have very little self-respect and self-love.


However, let's not let your thread be derailed by Ignite and people hereafter who respond to him. That doesn't serve any useful purpose and simply brings him the negative attention he's craving.


Everyone, let's get back on AmberCay3's thread track, so this doesn't become about Ignite instead of AmberCay3's question.


Your topic is very valid. By the way, you're a very pretty young lady. I went to your profile page and you have a lot going for you. You also live in a wonderful area with some great churches.


Let me offer you some encouragement. As you're out and about in Jacksonville, which by the way has the largest square miles of any city at 900 sq. miles, look about you. You will see overweight women with average size men, overweight men with average size women, tall women with short men, both parties overweight, both parties normal weight, both parties thin, and everything under the sun!


Just looking about, you will see many in your situation that are married so it is happening. Don't be discouraged and don't be down on yourself.


There's some "Teddy Bear," men that are here looking for women. Keep in mind it's more about having a shape. Most men don't care what size you are or what size clothes you wear, but they like some shape like the waist being smaller in comparison to the top and bottom. That is more important to most men.


So see what you can do to give yourself more shape such as a belt, if appropriate, or something that nips in a bit at the waist.


Oprah is no small lady, but she does dress in a way that maximizes what she has and gives her curves shape. Even though her waist is not small, she nips it in with a belt and looks nice. By doing that, it emphasizes her curves. Experiment and see what works for you.


While you're doing that, keep up your self-confidence. That's very attractive in both genders.


By the way, does your church have an active singles group? If not, you could visit another churches' single's group!


JavaJava5


Yeah because you can analyse my psyche with one post. You know nothing about me. IF anything, I have enoug self respect to know that I refuse to be seen with a fat chick. Yeah other fat men will find you attractive but I am well built and workout so I expect my partner to do the same.


well you might have self-respect but you have no knowledge. i have eaten 'right' my whole life, exercise, and am an really good shape all things considering over the last year...and i have been struggling with my weight since age 13. you should not be so cruel in your judgements of others...not everyone is 'fat' because they over-eat or don't exercise. and i agree with the others and not you...for you to be so negative to total strangers, you DO NOT have self-respect...and yes, i can analyze you...i have the psych degree, with honors. thanks
Dear HistPsych,


Oh, I can see things got taken a bit out of context which is understandable as this thread has grown by leaps and bounds really fast.


Let me explain please. Ambercay3 was saying that Ignite has very little self-respect as part of her larger post. Since I didn't want to take up space with her whole post again, I cut it down to her words about ". . . little self respect" that she wrote in reference to Ignite.


Then, in the very first line of my post that I sent AmberCay3, I agreed that Ignite has little self-respect. He was name-calling Ambercay3 in several of his posts in an egrecious way.


Perhaps that helps. Thanks.


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Dear HistPsych,


Please ignore the above post to you. I mis-read your post. Sorry.


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calistudio,128377 wrote :

Ignite,127926 wrote :


No, I am telling the truth. There is a difference between thick and fat. She is fat, no one wants to be seen with a whale. Come on men, can I get a witness?





Wow, you are a bigot. There are men who like big, as by defined by you as fat, women. Just as there are women who don't mind "big," i.e., fat, men. You need a lesson is what makes a person worthwhile, and size isn't part of that definition. Try sensitivity lessons, try living in a fat suit for a week and see what bigotry can do for an attitude adjustment.
What you are describing is a FETISH!!!! as definedin the dictionary. I'm very passionate about maintaining a healthy weight, as you can tell from my posts. Alot of comments made here are just softening the awful reality of being overweight. I hate when people make excuses for their being overweight. I used to be one of them {so I can say these things honestly}.Yes, there are medical reasons that people can be overweight, but the percentage is very TINY! I'll tell you, losing weight, especially maintaining that weight, is one of the hardest things to accomplish, because you still need to eat in order to live, unlike smoking or drinking. Those things are not necessary for survival. Ifanyone needs help in losing weight I will gladly help you.
 
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jordan614,128128 wrote :

Jeez "Ignite," at least have the nads to post a picture of yourself so we can make fun of you as well. We're all unattractive to some and attractive to others.


As for you Amber, I do believe you'll find there is a smaller pool of men who like heavier women, but they are definitely out there. Perhaps there is a dating site specifically geared to specific body types. There seems to be one for practically everything. You're being honest about who you are, and if you're happy with that person, then that's the best you can do. Eventually, someone will appreciate it. But hey, look how extraordinarliy handsome I am, and I've been rejectedbecause ofmy looks as well.[img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-wink.gif[/img]

There's an old saying, "handsome is as handsome does" you look just fine to me, and not being intrested in someone because of their looks is absurd.
 
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