They say some men like a BBW but where are they at?


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kim9610 is offline kim9610 Post #171  June 5,2008, 8:44am
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SweetKatieA,132741 wrote :

I'm going to start my own chinese dating restaurant called the Happy Dating Buffet
I'd like a reservation for two, please
 
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mmuffin83,128172 wrote :

I am with ambercay3. Where are the guys that want "beauty full" not just "beautiful"?? And don't tell me to go to a Christian singles group...they are the worst offenders. I have a few extra pounds on me but dress with style and am confident. I have been matched with MANY Christian men who all have that "can't stand excessively overweight". They initiate contact with me, date me for a couple months and then decide it just wasn't "it" for them. What is that "it" anyway?? They can never give me a reason, tell me what a great woman I am, what a great time they have with me BUT "it" just wasn't there. One went to far as to seduce me and then tell me after seeing me repeatedly after that, that it just wasn't it for him. Oh, so you can seduce me and "it" doesn't have to be there (but you sit in church every week....). These are men I had alot in common with, never had a disagreement with, was supportive and appreciative of all the special things they did for me, etc etc etc. I just don't understand what men want anymore. It is very frustrating. I am tired of hearing about how their "hot" ex-wives cheated on them, were primadonnas, never appreciated them, didn't think they were good in bed etc BUT I'm not "it"....go figure!
You are dealing with classic issues that have nothing to do with being big and beautiful. Many men just want sex, aren't looking for a relationship, and will seduce you because that's what they were looking for. Is it unfair? Well, only if you were told one thing and another was done. Unless you've been dating for over a month, I wouldn't anticipate what a guy wants. Don't anticipate that they want anything more than sex until they tell you so. A guy who does will beg you to be his girlfriend!


What is "it?" Something you can't explain. Not someone who "works" or is "great" but someone who makes you feel like you are glowing whenever they're around; someone who just clicks, who you couldn't imagine your life without. Has nothing to do with how big you are. People are lucky when they find "it!" It is not a good friend. Do you have guy friends you like a lot? But probably wouldn't date? Nice guys, right? But... they don't have "it". At least for you.


I have to say - something in this post made me feel like you're more worried about how he feels about you than whether you even have "it" for him! Don't underestimate yourself... don't settle for anything less than it in your life. I didn't hear you talk about someone who really turned your head. So my impression is you haven't found him. I suggest reading Paige Parker or Christian Carter.
 
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histpsych,128326 wrote :
Ignite,128075 wrote :

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ambercay3,128009 wrote :


WOW, I can tell you have very little self respect


Dear AmberCay3,


Yes, most sadly, Ignite does have very little self-respect and self-love.


However, let's not let your thread be derailed by Ignite and people hereafter who respond to him. That doesn't serve any useful purpose and simply brings him the negative attention he's craving.


Everyone, let's get back on AmberCay3's thread track, so this doesn't become about Ignite instead of AmberCay3's question.


Your topic is very valid. By the way, you're a very pretty young lady. I went to your profile page and you have a lot going for you. You also live in a wonderful area with some great churches.


Let me offer you some encouragement. As you're out and about in Jacksonville, which by the way has the largest square miles of any city at 900 sq. miles, look about you. You will see overweight women with average size men, overweight men with average size women, tall women with short men, both parties overweight, both parties normal weight, both parties thin, and everything under the sun!


Just looking about, you will see many in your situation that are married so it is happening. Don't be discouraged and don't be down on yourself.


There's some "Teddy Bear," men that are here looking for women. Keep in mind it's more about having a shape. Most men don't care what size you are or what size clothes you wear, but they like some shape like the waist being smaller in comparison to the top and bottom. That is more important to most men.


So see what you can do to give yourself more shape such as a belt, if appropriate, or something that nips in a bit at the waist.


Oprah is no small lady, but she does dress in a way that maximizes what she has and gives her curves shape. Even though her waist is not small, she nips it in with a belt and looks nice. By doing that, it emphasizes her curves. Experiment and see what works for you.


While you're doing that, keep up your self-confidence. That's very attractive in both genders.


By the way, does your church have an active singles group? If not, you could visit another churches' single's group!


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Yeah because you can analyse my psyche with one post. You know nothing about me. IF anything, I have enoug self respect to know that I refuse to be seen with a fat chick. Yeah other fat men will find you attractive but I am well built and workout so I expect my partner to do the same.
well you might have self-respect but you have no knowledge.* i have eaten 'right' my whole life, exercise, and am an really good shape all things considering over the last year...and i have been struggling with my weight since age 13.* you should not be so cruel in your judgements of others...not everyone is 'fat' because they over-eat or don't exercise.* and i agree with the others and not you...for you to be so negative to total strangers, you DO NOT have self-respect...and yes, i can analyze you...i have the psych degree, with honors.* thanks
I would venture to say, for the sake of mediation, that the first post was made in peace, and the response seemed defensive. Especially as the thread was not started by you, it is doubtful this particular post was directed at you. I would relax a bit.

Anyone who is clearly active, exercises, etc, should get their thyroid checked. New ranges of acceptability have come out based on new evidence. A TSH above 2.5 clearly now puts a woman at risk of miscarriage and other birthing issues. Above 3.0 (in America, where we are iodine sufficient) is indicative of mild thyroid failure and should be treated. Symptoms include weight gain, heavy/irregular periods, fatigue, and many, many more.

Again, not directed at anyone in particular.
 
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ambercay3, wrote :

I have met alot of people who tell me that they know guys who like a girl with meat and curves but for some reason I still can't seem to ever met anyone who perfers that. i'm pretty confident being a "bbw" and would love to meeta guy who loves for me that but I just can't find them.
I like big girls. Not just with a little meat, but a LOT. However, I still want the girl to have a pretty face, a good personality, good skin and the usual desireable things. To me I just have no prejudice on the subject, I see a pretty skinny girl and I'll get turned on. If I see a girl who is pretty and fat, I'll still get turned on, it just doesn't bother me. And with certain fat girls, I'm more attracted to them than I ever am to skinny girls.
 
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