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sseckels is offline sseckels Post #1  June 1,2010, 8:31pm
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I been finding when meeting women on e harmony that they play mind games...... for example i had a good conversation with someone which i thought it went will and then they went busy on there end on msn messenger meaning that they did it on purpose probably to ignore me why? If i was person on the other side I would said oh need to get going and not play mind games..............


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... this doesn't qualify as a "mind game" ...
 
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I will sometimes put myself in "Busy" or "Offline" but continue talking with someone on a chat program.

If she did it and then wouldn't return any of your messages sent on the chat program, she is just giving you the sign she isn't interested. Maybe just for the moment. If she really wasn't interested I'm sure she would completely block you.
 
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I use "busy" for anything from "I'm going to reply slowly" to "no time to send 'BRB' to ten people the fridge is exploding!" I can't speak for anyone else, but it doesn't always mean anything.
 
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sseckels wrote :
I've been finding when meeting women on e harmony that they play mind games...... for example I had a good conversation with someone which I thought it went well and then they went busy on their end on msn messenger meaning that they did it on purpose, probably to ignore me. Why? If I was person on the other side I would said "Oh need to get going" and not play mind games..............


I'd like to have your feedback guys. Thanks
There, I mostly fixed that for you. In all seriousness, although I'm a bit of a Grammar Nazi, numerous misspellings and sentences that run on and on with no punctuation can be a big turnoff to many women (and men too). Just something to keep in mind. As for your situation, I know one or two women who are slightly absent minded to this sort of thing, often juggling your conversation with other things and get up and leave when they think the conversation is over without saying goodbye. Very strange behavior, but some people are like that. Whether or not it's some kind of clue is hard to say without seeing the context of the conversation. I wouldn't take it personally...yet.
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1.) Grammatical errors drive me nuts. I can take a few typos here and there, but if it becomes apparent to me that its not your strong point, I'm turned off completely and I'll walk away. - However I will let you know I'm just not interested.

Placing your status in busy doesn't equal mind games. As a mom of two - I have gone into busy mode without saying anything countless times. Things happen and sometimes we need to react quickly leaving us no time to explain.
 
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I don't know if she was playing games or not. Maybe ... but it doesn't really sound like it.

I think it's a mistake though to generalize your experience with one woman to all women on EH. If you think all women play games, you won't notice when you come across one who doesn't!
 
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The girl was not considerate enough to tell you she wasn't interested.
 
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maybe she was just busy.
 
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Call her and ask.
 
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