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tjlpd is offline tjlpd Post #1  May 31,2010, 4:45pm
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I dated a guy for 4 mos. We broke up in December. There was plenty of closure (I broke up but he knew why and we had discussed things previously). He texted me a few times but I told him I was not interested unless he could fix the problems. So fast forward to today, more than 4 mos later, and he sent me a text saying he knew I did not want him to contact me but he was thinking of me. I am not interested in getting together with him. I thought I had made it clear in January. I am seeing someone I really, really like and do not want this to be a problem. I am thinking the best response is no response. Any other ideas??
 
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livenlearn is offline livenlearn Post #2  May 31,2010, 4:51pm
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What the heck. Is this memorial day for past dates or something?
I got an e-mail just like that today.
OK, the time frame is different because it was two weeks ago I said no.
Whats up with not understanding, no means no?
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Less is more. No response speaks volumes. You go girl...
 
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littlebluemonkeymind is offline littlebluemonkeymind Post #4  May 31,2010, 5:06pm
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I second the no response advice. If you engage, he'll see it as you being open to negotiation. If he'd fixed things, he'd have said so. He's just fishing.
 
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tjlpd wrote :
I dated a guy for 4 mos. We broke up in December. There was plenty of closure (I broke up but he knew why and we had discussed things previously). He texted me a few times but I told him I was not interested unless he could fix the problems. So fast forward to today, more than 4 mos later, and he sent me a text saying he knew I did not want him to contact me but he was thinking of me. I am not interested in getting together with him. I thought I had made it clear in January. I am seeing someone I really, really like and do not want this to be a problem. I am thinking the best response is no response. Any other ideas??
I think there is something going around today. I was having some heavy thoughts about how things ended with my ex wife just a moment ago. I would simply reply to his text with something along the lines of "Look [guy's name], I'm flattered that you still think highly of me but the truth is that I still feel I made the right decision by ending the relationship. You just weren't right for me and I've moved on since then and feel better for it, and unfortunately nothing you can say or do will ever change that. I'm sorry to be so blunt, but feel that you need to hear it in order to let go and move on. Please don't contact me any more. I truly wish you the best."

That should accomplish what you want while still letting him off easy. If he texts/calls you past that, then ignore him or block his number if necessary.
 
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livenlearn is offline livenlearn Post #6  May 31,2010, 5:10pm
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Yea, well. Not long after posting I got a restricted call.
Dont be surprised if you get a call because you didnt answer the text.
 
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PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #7  May 31,2010, 5:11pm

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tjlpd wrote :
I dated a guy for 4 mos. We broke up in December. There was plenty of closure (I broke up but he knew why and we had discussed things previously). He texted me a few times but I told him I was not interested unless he could fix the problems. So fast forward to today, more than 4 mos later, and he sent me a text saying he knew I did not want him to contact me but he was thinking of me. I am not interested in getting together with him. I thought I had made it clear in January. I am seeing someone I really, really like and do not want this to be a problem. I am thinking the best response is no response. Any other ideas??
Maybe he was thinking this......

Let him know that you hope that he has a great life and you have found yourself a great guy...no 'unless' no 'hope we can be friends'...none of that ambiguous stuff.

You can still communicate the 'don't ever contact me anymore' without being rude. I think you can do it!
 
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littlebluemonkeymind wrote :
I second the no response advice. If you engage, he'll see it as you being open to negotiation. If he'd fixed things, he'd have said so. He's just fishing.

Very wise, lbmm, very wise!
 
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Breezy1 is offline Breezy1 Post #9  May 31,2010, 5:13pm
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tjlpd wrote :
I dated a guy for 4 mos. We broke up in December. There was plenty of closure (I broke up but he knew why and we had discussed things previously). He texted me a few times but I told him I was not interested unless he could fix the problems. So fast forward to today, more than 4 mos later, and he sent me a text saying he knew I did not want him to contact me but he was thinking of me. I am not interested in getting together with him. I thought I had made it clear in January. I am seeing someone I really, really like and do not want this to be a problem. I am thinking the best response is no response. Any other ideas??
Ignore it.
 
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tjlpd wrote :
I am thinking the best response is no response. Any other ideas??
Send him nekkid pitchers of people nobody wants to see nekkid.
 
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