Is a phone conversation expected between OC and the first date?


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NJGeek81 is offline NJGeek81 Post #1  May 31,2010, 2:03pm
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Subject pretty much covers it. I've heard that once you hit OC and get any basic preliminary questions covered you should try to arrange a first date ASAP so you can get a feel for this person face to face. Seems simple enough, except that I've heard some people go from OC to phone conversations next. While I agree that an exchange of numbers would be useful in case any last minute changes come up, but is it typically a good idea and/or expected to call your match and have that be the initial "getting to know you" conversation with a medium that doesn't allow for exchanges of looks or body language?
 
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In my experience, about half, maybe a bit more, of women demand a phone call.

I prefer to meet without one, and tend to lose interest in someone by talking on the phone.

Still, since the options are talk on the phone, dump her, or refuse (at which point I expect she would dump me), I generally accept a call.
 
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NJGeek81 wrote :
Subject pretty much covers it. I've heard that once you hit OC and get any basic preliminary questions covered you should try to arrange a first date ASAP so you can get a feel for this person face to face. Seems simple enough, except that I've heard some people go from OC to phone conversations next. While I agree that an exchange of numbers would be useful in case any last minute changes come up, but is it typically a good idea and/or expected to call your match and have that be the initial "getting to know you" conversation with a medium that doesn't allow for exchanges of looks or body language?
I agree. One short phone call is enough in my opinion. I like to hear the person's voice and also it lets you know if they might be married since most married people can't talk on the phone.

After that, you really should set up a meet/date.

I have wasted a lot of time on the phone only to find out when we met in person that there was no further interest.
 
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i want one. ime if someone cant carry on a basic phone conversation i have to wonder about em. i dont make a decision whether or not to meet someone until i have at least one phone call.
 
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Are you exchanging information, or something other?
 
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you talkin to me?!

i am very much accustomed to 30 second (carp even 15 second) exchange of information calls, but i want something a little more on a first phone call. doesnt have to be drawn out or anything, but just something to give me a feel of their personality
 
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like if it were you dl, i would just want you to give me a your best stock tip or something, then we could hang up
 
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Personally, I'd rather just meet in person. If the guy really wanted to call me first, that's fine but not my preference.
 
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So the basic idea is once I hit OC and get a few things out of the way and gauge mutual interest, I should arrange for a meeting and exchange numbers "just in case"? Probably with an offer to talk on the phone if she wanted but otherwise state my preference to chat it up once we see each other face to face.
 
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That sounds perfect to me.
 
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