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We had plans to go to go to an MLB ball game (first date) and my date bailed via text the night before saying her family wouldn't allow her to go cause we'd never met even though she agreed. We're both in our late 40's. We'd conversed via phone and email.

Ladies don't bail via text. It's not the ticket price that bothered me as much as not having the guts to do it via phone.
 
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Go with someone else. Or go alone.

Next time, don't make this investment until it seems warranted.

You are lucky she contacted you at all.

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Assuming you are okay with a 40 year old giving a carp what "family" says, then I would reply with "well, it seems it is time I met them."
 
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This could turn out to be legitimate. I could picture her telling her 70-something parents at the last minute and them having a fit at the idea she is going on a date with someone she met online.

Then she was embarassed to call.
 
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dhoffman1421 wrote :

Ladies don't bail via text. It's not the ticket price that bothered me as much as not having the guts to do it via phone.
Is this legit??
How do you feel about the parents of a 40 year old calling the shots?
 
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NYCpigeon wrote :
This could turn out to be legitimate. I could picture her telling her 70-something parents at the last minute and them having a fit at the idea she is going on a date with someone she met online.

Then she was embarassed to call.

I could picture her having a job, and giving her parents a dissertation on intergenerational transfer payments (social security), then putting on a little black dress, and staying out too late.

(But, there is no "late," when the nights last forever ...)

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To the OP: this type of parent appears to support my earlier suggestion of taking on this negotiation yourself.

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dhoffman1421 wrote :
We had plans to go to go to an MLB ball game (first date) and my date bailed via text the night before saying her family wouldn't allow her to go cause we'd never met even though she agreed. We're both in our late 40's. We'd conversed via phone and email.

Ladies don't bail via text. It's not the ticket price that bothered me as much as not having the guts to do it via phone.
Hi dhoffman.

Sorry you have been disappointed like this. It was generous of you to get tickets to ball game for the first date, and I wonder why she left it to the last minute to cancel. (Aside from the family not giving their permission.)

I have my doubts about this because most 40-year-olds I know don't seek family permission for dates, but I suppose it's possible.

The other issue that interests me is what messages are and are not appropriate to send via text message. It used to be considered completely wrong to do this via email, but now it seems to be ok. Why does a text message giving bad news feel like a low blow to us?
 
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A 40-yo who requires parental permission ... uhm ...

*peers*
 
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A 40-yo who requires parental permission ... uhm ...

*peers*
It was "family" not "parents" so it could conceivably be children.
 
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It was "family" not "parents" so it could conceivably be children.
That'd be even worse ...
 
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