charmed59 is online now charmed59 Post #1  May 27,2010, 4:30pm
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I have a friend who is also doing online dating. She's a couple years older, much more successful than I, and never had kids, where I have one in high school, another in college.

We were discussing the matches we had received, and were talking about our first meetings. There are two guys that landed in my mailbox that are wonderful guys, but just not for me. One is looking for a bit more intellectual arm candy than I can provide, but she can in spades. The other has smaller children, that she would be thrilled with, while I'm not looking to take on that challenge. Both are in her age range, and she in theirs.

So I'm wondering, would if you were a guy, how would you feel if someone you had met once emailed you with a pointer to their friend's profile (Obviously on a searchable match site)? Or had her friend email you. It's little sticky, as neither of their online profiles mention the very things that would make her a good match. So the match site wouldn't match them up.
 
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I'd be fine with this.

Nothing matters until I meet them anyway.

I think it's a good idea.
 
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I dont see why it would be a problem. Esp, if they are able to view the profile themself.
 
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It has always seemed to me that many people use the online part of the e-dating process to find reasons to close their matches ad stop the process.

This illustrates why you should use e-dating sites as a way to enlarge your social circle, not expecting every match to be The Special One. Because you never know when a match will meet you and say "you know... you should meet my friend Ethel".
 
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I don't see anything wrong with so long as you tell them why you think they should look into it.

I've actually had a guy I went on one date with insist on setting me up with his best friend because he thought our personalities would click way better. He was right in that.
 
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As you have actually met these people, I think it would be very nice of you to encourage them to meet if you think they will get along.

A subtext to the online dating thing IS enlarging your social circle, and this type of thing can be a happy by product of that.

If your friend is willing, let the guy know that you know this person, and you think they might enjoy meeting. He is the stranger here, so, with her permission, I would pass on her contact info to him, and let him deal with it from there.......

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I'll trade you 6 of my matches for one of yours; she has to have her own teeth and only one chin though!
 
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