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sthngrlc is offline sthngrlc Post #1  May 25,2010, 5:42pm
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If a guy says thank you for being my friend, does that rule out the chance of ever being anyhing more? Is it possible for friends who have not been romantically interested in each other to develop those feelings?
 
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"Thank you for being my friend" is not a comment a friend makes.

Does he want something more? It's a fair guess he does.

Is it possible to develop the feelings? Sure. A good bet? Why not?
 
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I posted on almost this exact topic a couple of weeks ago. I have a very close male friend in whom I was/am romantically interested. In my case, it is very clear that I am permanently in the friend zone. Some people think once in that zone you're there for good but I remain more optimistic. Not about my own particular situation with this particular guy as I'm ok being in the friend zone with him because I at least still get to talk to him 4 or 5 times a day. But rather because I think sometimes the friend comes around and realizes you're the person they can tell anything to and you don't turn away, and that you're the one who has always been there for him/her and will always be. I refuse to believe this kind of revelation happens only in the movies.
 
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I would take thank you for being my friend as friend zoned. cant know what he meant, but thats what it would mean to me
 
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I would think it means he's a fan of Golden Girls (if he'd said 'a' instead of 'my' anyway).

Just kidding; it's a bit of an odd statement. To me it sounds like something a person would say to a friend that friend had made romantic overtures that they aren't interested in pursuing.
 
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Friend zoned.
 
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A datum that might, or might not, be useful: for all our prodigious communication, and for all that he appreciates the emotional support I provide him, my guy has mentioned "friend" on only two occasions:

1) When I first contacted him, and it was mentioned that even if nothing else developed, perhaps we could have friendship.

2) During a near-breakup occasioned by the reappearance of an old friend into his life, when I was nearly "friend-zoned." Things didn't work out between them.

(We're long-distance matches who corresponded for several months before meeting. Both of these events took place before we met in person. We have been together only only two occasions in the past 9 months, both times for more or less a week, but we have been, nonetheless, exclusive since about January.)
 
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FairOne wrote :
I would think it means he's a fan of Golden Girls (if he'd said 'a' instead of 'my' anyway).
I have had that song running thru my head now since I started reading this post!

Thank you for being a friend
Travel down the road and back again
Your heart is true
You're a pal and a confidante....

Don't know what's wrong with me tonight. Usually so good at staying on topic. My apologies to the OP. FWIW, it sounds like you've been put in the friend zone to me as well.
 
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I agree with the others, sounds like friends zone.
 
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sthngrlc wrote :
If a guy says thank you for being my friend, does that rule out the chance of ever being anyhing more? Is it possible for friends who have not been romantically interested in each other to develop those feelings?
It can go either way. Are you interested in him?

Just enjoy the friendship/acquaintanceship and take it one day at a time.
 
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