2clueless is offline 2clueless Post #1  May 25,2010, 9:22am
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I'm in OC with a funny, attractive man that seems really attracted to me. He has given me a lot of complements thus far. He snuck one into an open ended question ("I love your smile") and also into his first email message (You're very pretty. I like your style.) Flattering for sure! Thumbs up.

Okay, well so what's the problem? Well today's email--2nd message--contained a compliment to my eyes....and an ode to my hips. I appreciate the appreciation but am feeling like this is laying it on a little thick.

First off, I don't have hips (wish I did!). I read his email and immediately went to stare at my pictures and sure enough in one of the two full length pictures the cut of my dress has added what might appear like Beyonce hips to my Twiggy frame--damn babydoll dresses. But I digress.

We seem to have a rapport. His emails make me laugh out loud. I want to get to the first meet stage but all the hips compliment is a bit forward for me given our communication stage and a pink flag. Hips, like b reasts, are not an appreciation from afar body part, if you know what I mean. He asked for my number and I am going to inch forward. Just thinking out loud.

I'm open to all feedback from "Stop overthinking: I compliment hips all the time" to "run like the wind" to everything in between.
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #2  May 25,2010, 9:52am
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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It does seem a little bit much to be complimenting your physical attributes this much this early. But, don't write him off yet. I'd say just keep your eyes open for what his behavior is like in the future. If things otherwise are seeming good I wouldn't break off communication just for this. Good luck.
 
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It's all good and well so long as you keep your head firmly attached to your shoulders and don't do something you'll regret just because he showered you with compliments and attention.
 
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well unless I know someone a little better, i won't compliment her hips!

just say thanks to the compliment.
 
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Joti is offline Joti Post #5  May 25,2010, 10:31am
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2clueless wrote :
I read his email and immediately went to stare at my pictures and sure enough in one of the two full length pictures the cut of my dress has added what might appear like Beyonce hips to my Twiggy frame--damn babydoll dresses.
First - are we talking "hips" or "butt"? Beyonce has an awesome butt and maybe his way of being polite was to call your "butt" as hips so he didn't sound x-rated. I guess he could have said "junk in the trunk"
 
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I agree with some of the others who feel that this is a bit much this early on.

I am not going to say run for the hills. But I would keep your eyes open as this all has the sound of a player to me.
 
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2clueless wrote :
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First off, I don't have hips (wish I did!). I read his email and immediately went to stare at my pictures and sure enough in one of the two full length pictures the cut of my dress has added what might appear like Beyonce hips to my Twiggy frame--damn babydoll dresses. But I digress.
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Given all the threads about weight it would seem that your Twiggy frame should be the envy of many
 
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I find it very hard to compliment hips, i kinda like women with enough in their jeans to be if not spilling over then at least seriously endangering the stitching, but if i say anything that even remotely hints at a muffin top i'm pretty much sure to get a kneecap or a slap.
 
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BNNN is offline BNNN Post #9  May 25,2010, 11:53am
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Just meet the guy already!

Too much overthinking due to email/texting. Once you meet, you will know whether to worry about this type of comment. None of us know the context of your conversations and something other than a picture may have lead him to his comments so meet him and see what happens.
 
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margaret18 is offline margaret18 Post #10  May 25,2010, 1:38pm
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i'm learning to move as rapidly as possible to meeting in person. i skip even talking on phone.

that comment would not be enough for me to stop the process if everything else was feeling pretty good, but i might figure out something to say about it, i'm not in a clever mood right now so nothing is coming to mind....

you helped me once in a thread about kids... i remember you... i had to change my screen name...
 
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