diamondchipcookee is offline diamondchipcookee Post #1  May 25,2010, 2:18am
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Hello all. I have been dating a man for almost 3 months. At the begining of our relationship we would talk on the phone everyday, sometimes a few times a day. He lives in another state so we would see each other a few days a week. But for the last 2-3 weeks he has been very distant. His calls have dwindled to maybe twice a week and when I call he sometimes doesen't return my calls until the next day. When I asked him what was going on, he told me that he had a lot going on and that his lack of communication has nothing to do with me. My question is am I corret in thinking that he has lost interest? Should I just move on?
 
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I would say ...yep, he's lost interest and anything he says at this point is simply a means to 1) keep getting the 'benefits' of dating you or 2) keep you as a Plan B ...while he is looking for his next 'thing'.
 
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FruitaBu is offline FruitaBu Post #3  May 25,2010, 3:55am
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Two to Three months seems to be a make or break time for dating someone. Anytime a person changes their pattern of behavior, it means something. I think your assumption is probably correct unless he has a particular stress or issue going on in his life at the moment. I would assume he would share it with you if that was the case.

If you are not in an exclusive arrangement, then I would probably open yourself up to the possibility of seeing or talking to some other people at this point. It might help you not spend too much time trying to figure out what is happening and give him some time to either move forward with you or not.
 
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I agree that something has happened. If he was really into you, he would find time somewhere for you. If he was just buried with work or had a relative he had to take care of, he'd have probably told you by now. I say it's time to move on. People deserve better than to be someone else's Plan B.
 
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