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michaell1999 is offline michaell1999 Post #1  May 30,2008, 8:59am
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I had a friend say I might be trying too hard to impress. She suggested I dress more casual. Ladies, is it OK for me to wear boots, jeans, and a t-shirt that says "No, I will not fix your computer" ?
 
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Dear Michael1999,

You don't mention what kind of date you're going on: Coffee? Dinner? Party? Beach? Country-Western dancing? Movie?

Not enough information is known; however, it's alway appropriate to dress for the occasion. It does seem people tend to dress down more now.

I'd say no on the T-shirt especially with the saying.

However you go, beforehand, shower, shave, wearclean clothes without holes (sometimes jeans get holes), be well-groomed, get a hair-cut if you need one, have clean fingernails, be sure your boots aren't scruffed if you decide to wear them, etc. Women tend to notice those things.

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P. S. Actually, going back and looking at your picture on your Profile page, you look really nice in what you're wearing in the picture besides being quite well-groomed. I don't think you have anything to worry about whatsoever in that department. You seem to have a sense of style and what looks good on you. Go with what you think is right and what fits your date. It doesn't seem that you'd go wrong.
 
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javajava5,127108 wrote :

Dear Michael1999,

You don't mention what kind of date you're going on: Coffee? Dinner? Party? Beach? Country-Western dancing? Movie?

Not enough information is known; however, it's alway appropriate to dress for the occasion. It does seem people tend to dress down more now.

I'd say no on the T-shirt especially with the saying.

However you go, beforehand, shower, shave, wearclean clothes without holes (sometimes jeans get holes), be well-groomed, get a hair-cut if you need one, have clean fingernails, be sure your boots aren't scruffed if you decide to wear them, etc. Women tend to notice those things.

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Agreed, good one java! Also, get the feel of the girl & situation andimagine what sort of outfit she might turn up in - that can give you a clue as to what you should wear yourself. I think smart casual if no other clues. BTW remember what you wore on your first date andavoid wearing it on the second or third dates should they occur- women tend to notice these thingstoo! [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif[/img]

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Michael, I used to have that problem myself. When the first thing your date says to you is "why are you dressed up like that?" things aren't off to a smooth start. A sharp, casual outfit seems to work best in most situations. There are two things you are trying to convey: that you care about your appearance and that you know how to relax.

My advice is to start with a pair of jeans that fit you well and dress it up as nicely as you can. That particular novelty t-shirt sounds fun, but a nice shirt or a polo or something might put you in a middle area, in case she came in a dress or something.


And pay attention to your shoes. I always wear dress shoes with a great pair of jeans and a sporty shirt to a date in a casual setting. It is a look that gets a lot of positive notice. Boots are probably a good pick, too.

But that's just the best I've come up with. I'll enjoy hearing other people's thoughts as well.
 
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Hi Michael,

I believe everyone here provided you with good advice. You may dress more casual if the date is during the day and not in the evening. I would not go too casual (IE: T-shirt). A girl just wants to know that you took a some effort to get dressed. I know it takes me over an hour to lookeffortlessly casual!Wear what makes you comfortable. We just don't want to think that you just rolled out of bed to meet us for coffee. And Whitman's right, we do notice if you are wearing the same thing again.

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I'm another one that thinks it's entirely contextual. If your first date is to the beach or hiking, then yeah, totally casual is the way to go.

If you're eating a meal, however, it needs to go up a notch. In recent times, I've most commonly worn nice jeans, black leather shoes, and a 'dressy' black ribbed tee (no art or logos on it, and it's fitted). It's a combo that works for me. That's for something like wine-tasting or a more-casual dinner where I've actually already met the person once - or for a casual dinner party where I might meet someone. The way I'm built, baggy tees or non-fitted shirts just hang and make me look fat. A fitted tee happens to be a little less casual, so it all works out.

For a nice dinner out, slacks and a fitted collared shirt, absolutely. If it's a nice place, add on a tie and sport coat, but that's definitely in the minority, since I generally don't do first dates at that sort of place. Makes both people too stiff and formal.

What did ZZ Top say? "Every girl's crazy 'bout a sharp-dressed man." The trick to it is to make sure you're 'sharp' for the particular occasion you're attending.
 
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I should also add that I'm living in California, where things are generally a little more casual. I don't know how it is in Atlanta - I've never been there. I suspect you're similar to us, though, so the outfit you're wearing in your avatar photo would be fine with jeans - if you lose the jacket. Jackets are 'low-end formal' here. Might want to check around and see how that's done in your area.
 
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Glider_Pilot,127198 wrote :
Jackets are 'low-end formal' here. Might want to check around and see how that's done in your area.
Totally agree. I love throwing on a sportscoat with jeans and a white shirt to tool around town or whatever. To me, it is a clean, casual look and cool because it conceals a wrinkled shirt. But I never wear a coat on a first date anymore. It doesn't seem to get a great reaction. Like the original poster's friend said, it seems to be interpreted as trying too hard.
 
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BoyFromOz,127114 wrote :

javajava5,127108 wrote :


Dear Michael1999,


You don't mention what kind of date you're going on: Coffee? Dinner? Party? Beach? Country-Western dancing? Movie?


Not enough information is known; however, it's alway appropriate to dress for the occasion. It does seem people tend to dress down more now.


I'd say no on the T-shirt especially with the saying.


However you go, beforehand, shower, shave, wear clean clothes without holes (sometimes jeans get holes), be well-groomed, get a hair-cut if you need one, have clean fingernails, be sure your boots aren't scruffed if you decide to wear them, etc. Women tend to notice those things.


JavaJava5


Agreed, good one java! Also, get the feel of the girl & situation and imagine what sort of outfit she might turn up in - that can give you a clue as to what you should wear yourself. I think smart casual if no other clues. BTW remember what you wore on your first date and avoid wearing it on the second or third dates should they occur - women tend to notice these things too! [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif[/img]


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yep. all the responses on this thread are solid. nice but casual, look at context, etc.
 
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