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Please can someone explain to me why a person would lie about their height in their profile??? I've had first meetings with two matches and both of them lied about their height - one said he was 5'11" and the other 5'10". I'm 5'8" and both were shorter than I was, it wasn't like I wouldn't notice. It makes me question EVERYTHING they have put on their profiles. Why would someone lie about something like this?
 
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FLWoman wrote :
Please can someone explain to me why a person would lie about their height in their profile??? I've had first meetings with two matches and both of them lied about their height - one said he was 5'11" and the other 5'10". I'm 5'8" and both were shorter than I was, it wasn't like I wouldn't notice. It makes me question EVERYTHING they have put on their profiles. Why would someone lie about something like this?
Probably the same reason women lie about weight. They know that the other sex is more shallow in this area. Of course, someone can't control their height like their weight, but that's another topic that gets beat to death on these boards.

If they aren't tall enough for you, just close them out. They probably think that their "winning personality" will overcome your realization that they aren't that tall (similar to overweight women). Unfortunately, we are attracted to who we are attracted to whether "shallow" or not. Personality matters, but you HAVE to be attracted to someone.

I met a girl who cropped every photo of just her face and met another who used old photos where she was more in shape. Same thing, did she not think I was going to eventually meet her in person? Just close them out, and don't feel guilty for doing it. They misrepresented themselves and you just simply weren't attracted to the real person like the computer images. No reason to beat yourself up over it. So what if you "wasted" a few hours getting to know them. You can now close the door with no regrets.
 
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I have to laugh...I'm 5'4 and notice many of the guys I meet that say 5'7 are usually shorter. I don't get it either. It's not like it's not obvious when we can see the top of their head. But it's not different then people that lie about their weight too... I don't get it.
 
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More to the question is why would anyone lie about anything? Lying is a deal breaker to almost everyone. Something that is quite obvious such as height is certain to be noticed right away. Seems like your matches had no integrity or smarts

There are at least a few guys in Florida that don't lie about our height So it is time to move on.
 
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I have to laugh...I'm 5'4 and notice many of the guys I meet that say 5'7 are usually shorter. I don't get it either. It's not like it's not obvious when we can see the top of their head. But it's not different then people that lie about their weight too... I don't get it.
My profile says I am 5'4", my drivers license says I am 5'4". You could probably see the top of my head because even though you would know going into the date that barefoot we are going to be nose to nose you are going to wear heels.
 
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Hmmm, this is more of an About You or Dating thread. I think. I'm going to move it.

FLWoman. It is sometimes a frustrating process weeding out those who lie about such things that are easily found out. It seems like they have problems with how tall they are and want to pretend that they really aren't as tall as the tape measure says.
 
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My profile says I am 5'4", my drivers license says I am 5'4". You could probably see the top of my head because even though you would know going into the date that barefoot we are going to be nose to nose you are going to wear heels.
Actually, I personally wouldn't. When meeting a guy for the first time that is on the shorter side...I always wear flats...after a first date...game on though, the heels are coming out.
 
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The one guy I closed out due to drug use, but the other was very nice and I would have still been interested, except the lying thing really concerns me (bad history). I can see your point though about the why.
 
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FLWoman wrote :
Please can someone explain to me why a person would lie about their height in their profile??? I've had first meetings with two matches and both of them lied about their height - one said he was 5'11" and the other 5'10". I'm 5'8" and both were shorter than I was, it wasn't like I wouldn't notice.

They had their measurements taken in Euros, and then the Euro fell, so they got shorter.

Happens all the time.

I recommend dating only Chinamen, as the Yuan is fixed (for now.)
 
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Actually, I personally wouldn't. When meeting a guy for the first time that is on the shorter side...I always wear flats...after a first date...game on though, the heels are coming out.
What you own flats? Wow, that is a first for me

Personal opinion is that you should always wear flats. And it has nothing to do with your height or mine. I just don't like heels. The only thing worse than heels would be boots (though I can understand boots in the winter for you folks up north) and if they are cowboy type boots
 
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