Co9 is offline Co9 Post #1  May 19,2010, 5:41pm
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How am i supposed to fine the one? When i thought the last guy was the one he bailed on me because he was to afraid. I dont know what to do now. Help me
 
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All the Whos in Whoville,

ask why your mind is made,

why do you think so ill,

of him, to say he is afraid?
 
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You have to meet several "one's" before you find "THE one."
 
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Basically I would say that you are going about finding "the one" all wrong. I would suggest that you may want to read the book How to Get a Date Worth Keeping by Dr. Henry Cloud. This book will give you different perspective on dating and then finding "the one".
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
I would suggest that you may want to read the book How to Get a Date Worth Keeping by Dr. Henry Cloud. This book will give you different perspective on dating and then finding "the one".
You reference this book a lot. How has it helped you?

I know you don't reply to my questions, but I'm asking anyway.
 
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Welcome to the boards, Co9. I hope we can help you with your question.

Finding "the one" can take some time. Whether it be online or in real life, patience and persistence seem to be common factors.

Just because this one person didn't work out doesn't mean there isn't someone else perfect for you out there.
 
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What was he afraid of? Commitment?
 
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Let me pass on some advice that was given to me, a person who was also seeking "the one".

"The secret to finding "the one" is to become "the one" yourself.

IE- work on yourself, better yourself, get your finances in order, go to the gym, do some volunteer work, take good care of yourself.

Do this, and believe me, they will come to you.
 
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OP - Tell us a little about yourself. It has been my experience that men are afraid to make a commitment if it means thay have to take on a lot of reponsibility i.e. pay the woman's bills, take care of her children etc. What I am sayin is that men are more likely to commit if you come across as an independent woman who has her act together.
 
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Matthew123 wrote :
Let me pass on some advice that was given to me, a person who was also seeking "the one".

"The secret to finding "the one" is to become "the one" yourself.

IE- work on yourself, better yourself, get your finances in order, go to the gym, do some volunteer work, take good care of yourself.

Do this, and believe me, they will come to you.
Agree 100%
 
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