First date - he's set up dinner and a walk afterward. Sound okay?


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cricket99 is offline cricket99 Post #1  May 19,2010, 4:40pm
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I'm new to online dating, so does this sound like a normal first date? A guy I've been talking to for a week called me last night, and he was very cool. He wants to go out on Friday night for what he dubs a real date. He's really impressed me by taking the reins and planning the date, picking out a great restaurant, finding a nice place for us to go for a walk afterward where there are galleries and things to see and talk about.

Yet I see a lot of people here talking about fast coffee dates for their first meeting.

Is it okay to do a more full-out date? I'm totally okay with it, but wonder if I'm bucking the trend. I like him enough from our chats online and on the phone to enjoy his company, even if I don't feel an instant spark. I am comfortable dedicating a chunk of my Friday night to getting to know this guy in a real date setting.

Does it sound like a good situation to you guys? We're meeting at the restaurant, so it's not as if he's picking me up at home, etc.
 
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I think that sounds lovely.

Sometimes we hear advice about keeping things short and sweet. That's cool too. It's just so that there's not too much pressure and you can bail early if it's a disaster. But if you two are OK w/ a dinner and a walk, then that's perfectly fine. :P

I really like that he's picked out where to eat and what to do. That's so attractive to me.... *drool*
 
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My first meetings are almost always longish dinners, and I always pick the location.

The walk afterward is something I wouldn't have done (due to time), but it seems like a fine idea to me.

I am not keen on "coffee dates" myself - though it is a good way to check that your date didn't find 100 pounds since their photo from ten years ago.
 
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How do you set up a walk?
 
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Sounds great to me - of course, just the walk through the galleries or along the river would be a fine first date to me too
 
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thanks for the input.

penpen, I agree 100% with you - the fact that he's gone to the trouble to make the plans and set this up is very flattering. I didn't even realize how much I'd appreciate such attention to detail until he did it. Now, all of my friends I've told are in awe.

he says I've made a huge impression on him and he can't wait to meet me. I'll make a new friend on Friday night at the very least.

I agree about the river - he said either the galleries or a walk by the river, whichever I prefer. He even was considerate enough to ask me if there's any kind of food I don't like, so that he could plan our dinner date accordingly.

Very sweet. My fingers are crossed...
 
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ThePriestess wrote :
How do you set up a walk?
what do you mean?
 
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cricket99 wrote :
what do you mean?
I'm as confused as you.

Maybe more.
 
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sounds very nice. the walk sounds good as long as he has thought about your safety.....not in a bad area or a very dark, remote place.
 
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both places he's suggested are very open, public spots for the walk. a public park by the river that's always busy on friday nights (there's a skate park there and friday night concerts, etc), or the gallery walk along the busiest street in town.

he's been very considerate with that aspect.
 
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