Beware of 'Catch and Release' Daters!

Beware of 'Catch and Release' Daters!

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PWR is offline PWR Post #1  May 19,2010, 6:18am
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The point about catch and release is to understand how people are communicating. Found out how a date wants to dicuss her problems only. When I tried to bring up my own situation, she gave me a diatrab of being scared and she did not know me. The attention was for her and she was not interested in what I was stating. The best move I did was close the match. PWR May 19, 2010
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #2  May 19,2010, 7:37am
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Some good points in the article.
 
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greg75 is offline greg75 Post #3  May 19,2010, 8:00am
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I definitely agree with this article.
 
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livenlearn is offline livenlearn Post #4  May 19,2010, 8:36am
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Good timing on this article.
I have a problem with someone who wont take no as an answer.
This article confirms my suspicions of what they are all about and the reason they are being told no.
 
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I agree on the perfect timing of this article. I am beginning to suspect that this is why my last relationship ended. After 9 months, he realized he didn't get those butterfly feelings anymore and ended it. I was told by someone close to him that they have learned to not get to close to his girlfriends because they never last long, but to make it sound better pointed out that they thought I would make it since I lasted longer than most.... thanks. I truly hope he finds what he is looking for though and doesn't end up constantly "catching and releasing".
 
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lacedwithhope is offline lacedwithhope Post #6  May 19,2010, 9:30pm
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I also agree with this article, as depressing as it was to read. Another thing I've noticed is that the guys I've met like this believe that dating 'is a game.' Count yourself fortunate if they'll even tell you so early enough in the process...
 
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PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #7  May 19,2010, 9:50pm

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I think catch 'n release daters are a bunch of carp!
Last edited by PY_2; May 19,2010 at 9:51pm. Reason: come on y'all know that was coming sooner or later!
 
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Isn't all of dating catch and release until you catch one you actually want to keep?
 
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I agree with you, DancingFool.

...that we are all doing catch and release when we're dating.

Most of us would prefer just to be caught by the right one, so we wouldn't go through all of those dates with the wrong ones (for us)....

As for kissing toads along the way, I always remember that my 'toad' is someone else's prince and vice versa.
 
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I may have dated one.  She wasn't so in a hurry at first though.  But once we met for the third time it was like no holds barred.  For a month it was wonderful.  I was doing my best not to make too much of until she suggested we plan a trip about 5-6 weeks out.  This gave me the sign that she was into me and wanted to see if we could last.  So I let myself fall for, and I fell hard when about 2 weeks later she pulled the rug out of under me.  Really didn't give many signs she was getting ready to do it either.  Good thing was none of those trip plans were ever made.
I still don't think she did it consciously though.  I think she may be a catch-n-release by nature and not realize what she's doing.  I will admit though, that was one wild month! But would still rather find someone more long-term minded.
 
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