lonleyGuy is offline lonleyGuy Post #1  May 18,2010, 6:25am
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I just read the thread for lostcase, did everything turn out for him. Well I will keep this short. I am too a lostcase. I am 31 sigle and never dated, I have no real soctical life, I am quiet and Shy, Evertime I meet someone on Eharmony. they talk to me once or twice and dissapear, This has heppen like five time since I am have been a member, Help me, What am I doing wrong.

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Online dating can be very difficult and trying for all of us. People sometimes stop communicating because they have become interested in someone else; nothing you did wrong an alternative option opened for them.

If you have a friend you are willing to share your emails with, they may be able to pick up on ways you can better communicate, they can possibly provide an objective opinion in this area. Some people react strongly to misspellings and poor grammar. It does not make sense to judge someone on one factor, but it happens.

To succeed, it's critical to stay positive, about both the dating process and yourself. You have a lot of good qualities to offer, stay focused on these and work on other areas you would like to improve.

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TheThinker is offline TheThinker Post #3  May 18,2010, 7:21am
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I agree with CC.
I'd say, start with the simple things first...grammar and spelling are huge.
You will definitively need to improve those areas because that is the thing that will get noticed first, at least in your profile. And it does matter.
 
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lonleyGuy wrote :
I just read the thread for lostcase, did everything turn out for him. Well I will keep this short. I am too a lostcase. I am 31 sigle and never dated, I have no real soctical life, I am quiet and Shy, Evertime I meet someone on Eharmony. they talk to me once or twice and dissapear, This has heppen like five time since I am have been a member, Help me, What am I doing wrong.

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first, maybe try to improve your social skills in real life- join meetup groups, or take classes in something that interests you. check out some books on social skills and etiquette and read them.

secondly, you should try to improve your grammar and spelling. if you meet people online, you have to put your best foot forward, and be able to communicate clearly.
 
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A pretty vague plea for help. But Scarlet is right, it sounds like your biggest problem is that you are not getting out enough and meeting people generally. That is the first place to start. Whatever it is that you like to do, go and do it. With others.

If you just have trouble approaching women, well, there is a lot of info out there about how to do that. Some good and some bad. Remember, it is an unnatural act to speak to a stranger so it takes lots of practice to get comfortable at it. Don't give up after a weekend of trying. I know a couple of places to start picking stuff up so pm me and I can send you some links.
 
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Sure I will take a look at those links, Thanks
 
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Thanks for the advice any more would be grateful, LOL yes, my spelling is bad because I was in a rush, hey is that a spell checker in front of me, oh dear, too bad I didn't notice that before, My bad. Lonely Guy
 
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scarlet13 wrote :
first, maybe try to improve your social skills in real life- join meetup groups, or take classes in something that interests you. check out some books on social skills and etiquette and read them.

secondly, you should try to improve your grammar and spelling. if you meet people online, you have to put your best foot forward, and be able to communicate clearly.
Heavens to Murgatroid, read a book
 
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Your experiences sound pretty much standard procedure to me, but I am not a Lost Case. I just consider that it is their loss.
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I've had my share of rejections and I've rejected some too. Rejections suck, but at least it shows you tried, right? Get out there more and get rejected more!
 
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